Why To Mingle?????

Hi Friends,

For last so many days, I have been thinking about this “ To be or not to be a Single” thing. Reason is, that about a month back, One of my friends told me that she is falling in love with somebody and since she and her boyfriend have accepted that they are a couple, she has started feeling a bit different. Difference in her mannerism, Behavior, Habits and in almost everything. She also told me that now she does not like to spend time with her family anymore and prefers to get locked up in a room and think about her Boyfriend.



Just to clarify that she is my friend and I do not like to be friends with people who are too younger, especially girls. It was important to mention here because I just wanted to make clear that I am not talking about a teenager.



So I was talking about that change she is going through, along with the detachment from the family, she has also started thinking that the people who used to come to her to wish her morning or evening, are just being too horny.

I am sorry my dear friend, Perhaps I am too "boringly immature" to understand this and it's just an example which I have mentioned here, Because it's not about this friend of mine, But wherever I see, I can see boys and girls are just fascinated to get into a relationship with the opposite sex without ever and even realizing if they really need it.


Sometimes...I wonder what people mean when they say they are single and lonely. I have always believed, being lonely and being alone are two different statements altogether. Though being alone is momentary, loneliness gives you a feeling of solitude for life.

Now, some of my readers might think that because I am “married” and still think this way, then I might be regretting for the time when I got married or for my decision of getting married. But my friends that's not the case and that's not the case with everyone and that's why I think this “I HAVE TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND” theory sucks..

I had a 50 years old neighbor, Who used to sit in the balcony every evening with a peg of whiskey in his hands and used to listen some wonderful old hindi movie songs. One day I tried and find if he is too lonely, But his reply just shook me. He replied “ Beta zindagi nikal gayi hai, agle mahine 51 ka ho jaunga, par ab jaakar kahin kishore kumar ka collection poora hua hai aur in 2 ghanton ke liye main roz 22 ghante wait karta hoon”.

I am not going to make any comment about his statement, Because the way I take this statement, I don't want my readers to take this in the same way, You guys are free to take it in whichever way you want.

On the other hand a single women is a busy professional, juggling career and home, handling her life and loving it the way it is, with the guarantee that there's no place in her life for any other man.


Both the examples make me wonder if the characters are lonely or alone. Is it necessary to plan our whole life with one person or it's just a social responsibility? Can we lead a peaceful and satisfying life all alone just being ourselves and doing things we want to do once we set our mind to it? A time when we stop wandering and settle down just for ourselves or our dreams wrapped in a secure life and comfortable around ourselves. Would that be a selfish or self-centered existence or a freedom to liberty. Living our life to the fullest and wish to make each and every dream come true, and the best of our existence.


I remember how I reacted to that friend of mine(who told me about her lately started love life) I even got offended and told her that I did not like the statement, And no wonder why I reacted like that..

A feeling of single hood not only gives you a sense of freedom but also a peaceful and fulfilled life. Movies, books, music, arts, hobbies, traveling, social work, friends and lots of dreams ~ life has hell lot of variety it seems that might limit itself because of many adjustments and sacrifices done in a relationship.


Is it really necessary to have a partner or companion for life or the emptiness can be filled with a large number of friends and variety of things that leaves no space for one's other half. A single person is free to pick and choose as many individuals as friends or to connect with the whole human species with no boundaries to set in. Sometimes people you share some magical moments with become the most cherished memory of your life, much more important than the one you spent your whole life with.


Just because someone is alone does not mean he is lonely and with so many things to explore in this beautiful life there's no chance to get bored. Rather we can devote our life in helping those in need, those who has nothing. Isn't someone who care and love people but not bound to any one person is much better than the one with a companion but not satisfied and happy with his life?



I'll be waiting for the answers..



Cheers....