Hi Friends,
In the last 5-6 years of my life, I have observed something, Something about the people whom I met, Something about things I have seen and something about situation I have gone through and that "something" is the difference between the initial thought and the final thought about those people, Things and situation.
Earlier I did not know what to call this initial reaction and final verdict, However when it started me hurting like anything, I tried and found out that the initial expression is called "Perception" and after sometime when you mix your own judgement in it, It becomes "Reality".
Now, Whenever I get nostalgic and think about my past life, I observe that I have always been a victim of "Perception" and the "Reality" has shocked me so many times. Or I can say that every now and then I have run for water and have found "Mirage" Instead.
Is reality nothing but a concept unique to each of us? Can anything be classed as real when our perceptions differ greatly on so many things? Just because we see something a particular way does not make it so. We can be so insistent sometimes that our way of seeing something is more right than someone else’s way.
Keep an open mind at all times and remember that a point of view is always valuable to each individual. I always used to class myself as someone who was "realistic", But after contemplating this further I realised that the term "realistic" means something very different entirely.
Lets take the example of war. There are some people who believe that war is necessary sometimes to get peace and then in order to keep the peace. There are other people who will believe that war is evil and should never be entered into no matter what. Who is right? Is war right or wrong? That’s just an example and I’m not here to answer that question (coz even i am waiting for one).
I’m here to demonstrate that reality is a very fluid concept. What you see as real is only defined by your belief structure. Your version of what is real is only your perception of it; Not what is so. and somebody has said,
“We see the world, Not as it is, But as we are”
As far as my experience is concerned, I have gone through this difference every time I have met with somebody for the first time in my life and the "reality" has always outplayed the "perception" and "reality" has turned out in a really horrible manner every time.
Your belief structure determines your perception which then ultimately determines how you respond to events. Going by that sequence you can then see that there is another place to start. You can choose to examine your beliefs and then choose to change them. That’s why I have learnt that everything begins with a choice.
Or Perhaps There is no such thing as "reality". There is only "your" reality which is essentially your "perception". Remember that what you believe to be true is only as true as your personal experience and it doesn’t go any further than that. Even many scientific theories are just that, They are just theories! It doesn’t make them a universally accepted.
It’s important to note that how you choose to perceive things is how they come across to you. Am I being a hypocrite in stating this? Is this just my reality? I guess in some ways yes I am being a bit of hypocrite but this is my theory based on universal principles. I believe that your power to choose how to perceive things makes them appear that way to you.
So Keep thinking about it and let me know if need to adopt anymore principles, By which i can be away from "This" Perception and come closer to "That" Reality.
Cheers......
Thursday, June 3, 2010
Thursday, May 27, 2010
Aur Shaadi Ho Gayi.....
Hi Friends,
Starting to write after 26 days. Longest break taken in last six months. Just to inform you all that I was more than busy in helping my wife in shopping which was okay but also in few more things like suggesting a gift and matching the colors of her various dresses as well which is not at all okay.
My friend's wedding was the reason behind all this chaos. But it was not a chaos from the beginning, But my wife's preparation for this wedding converted this pleasant occasion into a nightmare, As even in my dreams, I was selecting dresses and matching accessories for my wife and my dreams were so real that all my suggestions were getting rejected again and again and still I was forced to come up with a new and ready-to-get-rejected suggestion.
And finally, On the early morning of 24th of May'09, Another friend of mine became a “martyr”.
When he was getting ready for his wedding and was wearing a quite expensive “Sherwaani”, my last words in his ears were “I know it's too late, but my friend, Is it really important for you to get married?? think again if you can!!!!!”. He replied, “Ab to ho rahi hai yaar”.
God bless the soul of another bachelor .......
I can't forget those days when we boozed together, went for movies together and had loads of fun. But now, These are the memories with which I will cherish and spend rest of my life.
After I got married, He was the only one who used to bring the wave of bachelorhood with him in my house. But now whenever he will come, Rather if he gets to come, Their will be two intelligent ladies talking and two dumb a** listening.
Scene will be almost like this..
No points for guessing that who is husband and who is wife...
And that's not it because as he has already committed the “SIN”, So there is nothing much can be done about it. However once he'll meet me next time, I'll surely give him a bit of gyan about what a women wants in her man and how can a man survive a married life accordingly.
I got married when I was 21 and I know about the married life of so many people who in their 30s or 40s. So here is the wish list of the women..
What a women wants in her man, Original List (at age 22)
1. Handsome
2. Charming
3. Financially successful
4. A caring listener
5. Witty
6. In good shape
7. Dresses with style
8. Appreciates the finer things
9. Full of thoughtful surprises
10. An imaginative, romantic lover
Revised List (at age 32)
1. Nice looking - preferably with hair on his head
2. Opens car doors, holds chairs
3. Has enough money for a nice dinner at restaurant
4. Listens more than he talks
5. Laughs at her jokes at appropriate times
6. Can carry in all the groceries with ease
7. Owns at least one tie
8. Appreciates a good home cooked meal
9. Remembers birthdays and anniversaries
10. Seeks romance at least once a week
Re-revised List (at age 42)
1. Not too ugly - bald head OK
2. Doesn't drive off until she is in the car
3. Works steady - splurges on dinner at McDonalds on occasion
4. Nods head at appropriate times when she is talking
5. Usually remembers the punchlines of jokes
6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange the furniture
7. Usually wears shirt that covers stomach
8. Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids
9. Remembers to put the toilet seat lid down
10. Seeks romance maximum once a week
Jokes apart but my friend's wedding was the happiest thing happened to all of us as He waited for this moment too long, She waited for this moment for too long......”Aur Shaadi Ho Gayi”.
May god bless them with a happy, Healthy and immortal married life with loads of love and unlimited fun...
Cheers....
Starting to write after 26 days. Longest break taken in last six months. Just to inform you all that I was more than busy in helping my wife in shopping which was okay but also in few more things like suggesting a gift and matching the colors of her various dresses as well which is not at all okay.
My friend's wedding was the reason behind all this chaos. But it was not a chaos from the beginning, But my wife's preparation for this wedding converted this pleasant occasion into a nightmare, As even in my dreams, I was selecting dresses and matching accessories for my wife and my dreams were so real that all my suggestions were getting rejected again and again and still I was forced to come up with a new and ready-to-get-rejected suggestion.
And finally, On the early morning of 24th of May'09, Another friend of mine became a “martyr”.
When he was getting ready for his wedding and was wearing a quite expensive “Sherwaani”, my last words in his ears were “I know it's too late, but my friend, Is it really important for you to get married?? think again if you can!!!!!”. He replied, “Ab to ho rahi hai yaar”.
God bless the soul of another bachelor .......
I can't forget those days when we boozed together, went for movies together and had loads of fun. But now, These are the memories with which I will cherish and spend rest of my life.
After I got married, He was the only one who used to bring the wave of bachelorhood with him in my house. But now whenever he will come, Rather if he gets to come, Their will be two intelligent ladies talking and two dumb a** listening.
Scene will be almost like this..
(click on the picture above if you want to know the depth of the torture)
And that's not it because as he has already committed the “SIN”, So there is nothing much can be done about it. However once he'll meet me next time, I'll surely give him a bit of gyan about what a women wants in her man and how can a man survive a married life accordingly.
I got married when I was 21 and I know about the married life of so many people who in their 30s or 40s. So here is the wish list of the women..
What a women wants in her man, Original List (at age 22)
1. Handsome
2. Charming
3. Financially successful
4. A caring listener
5. Witty
6. In good shape
7. Dresses with style
8. Appreciates the finer things
9. Full of thoughtful surprises
10. An imaginative, romantic lover
Revised List (at age 32)
1. Nice looking - preferably with hair on his head
2. Opens car doors, holds chairs
3. Has enough money for a nice dinner at restaurant
4. Listens more than he talks
5. Laughs at her jokes at appropriate times
6. Can carry in all the groceries with ease
7. Owns at least one tie
8. Appreciates a good home cooked meal
9. Remembers birthdays and anniversaries
10. Seeks romance at least once a week
Re-revised List (at age 42)
1. Not too ugly - bald head OK
2. Doesn't drive off until she is in the car
3. Works steady - splurges on dinner at McDonalds on occasion
4. Nods head at appropriate times when she is talking
5. Usually remembers the punchlines of jokes
6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange the furniture
7. Usually wears shirt that covers stomach
8. Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids
9. Remembers to put the toilet seat lid down
10. Seeks romance maximum once a week
Jokes apart but my friend's wedding was the happiest thing happened to all of us as He waited for this moment too long, She waited for this moment for too long......”Aur Shaadi Ho Gayi”.
May god bless them with a happy, Healthy and immortal married life with loads of love and unlimited fun...
Cheers....
Sunday, May 2, 2010
The Mask............
Hi Friends,
Some of the craziest things have been happening with me for last few years and it has everything to do with my identity, Deeds and Existence
When i was born, It was a reason to smile for my parents, When grew up, It was another mark of identity in the class room, After some more time, It became the example of so many notorious acts, Then became something on my admit card, Then something on my Pan card, Then a 2x2 inches part of my office ID card, also something which get me “hellozz” and “hiizz” when people look at it and yes I am talking about “Face”my “Face”, The most integral part of one's identity and personality. However this same old “face” of mine has now started creating some disastrous and never-felt- before troubles for me.
We all know, That like all other physical changes, Even our face keeps on changing. In terms of size, color, marks and puberty. But I never knew that apart from these “normal changes”, Some far more “abnormal” and “extraordinary” changes can also occur.
It's been 4 years since I have left my hometown. It was 26th of November 2006 when I boarded the train to Delhi and I was 20 years of age then. And I did not know if there are any physical changes yet to take place in me. In these four years, I kept visiting to my hometown in every six months or in an year. However now I have started feeling that the reactions of the people around me have changed. No matter whom I am going to, In any minor or major way, I have to prove my identity to everyone. Let it be my parents, Brother, Friends, Colleague, Uncles, Aunts and almost to everybody I encounter with and it's not about the people only in the hometown but with everybody whom I know from my childhood. Majority of those people are there in my hometown and that's why I get to feel this really badly when I am there in my hometown.
For me, Being with parents is something which cannot be compared with any other treasure or pleasure in the whole world. It's like a universal truth that your mom and dad can understand your feelings even if you don't express or say anything. Things were not different with me either. Every wish fulfilled, Every tears wiped and ever pain healed right from the moment I was born until now. But now, I don't know why but the “communication” has become the only medium to convey the feeling across, Which never really was required.
How come now I have to tell them that “Mom, Dad I love you”.Parents cannot be like this, At least my parents cannot be like this..Who did that to them, Rather who did that to our love.?? why do I need to tell them that I am there son??? why don't they recognize me?? what has happened to my face???....no answer came.....
Friends, Whom I have known from my childhood. Non of us ever required to say that “we are there for each other”. We fought for each other, Laughed with each other, Celebrated parties, Cried together, Laughed together, Were there with each other when required and even when it was not required. In fact, I can't think of a single moment, When we were not required or “unwanted” for each other, Then why the hell now even after being with them they can't recognize me?? why should I tell them every time that I am their friend??? why don't they give me the same warmth even after looking at my face????why do I need to tell them that I am there for them...what has happened to my face???????.......no answer came.......
Looking at the people you don't know and getting strange looks and cold response is completely normal and anticipated. But getting same strange response from the people with whom I have spent years causes and caused an unbearable agony deep within. But the saga did not stop there, Suddenly I realized that it's not only my friends and parents, But the whole world has become stranger for me. Cold responses, Strange looks , An expectation to prove my identity and an explanation of my past life and existence is all I was getting from everywhere.
Then I decided to sit with "Solitude", This "agony" and “Myself”. Because I wanted solitude to kill either agony or “me”.
It was paining and was paining like anything. Choked emotions, Forbidden desires, Pierced thoughts and dried tears. I was cluttered with all these things.
A choked feeling…there was no one around…… my sobs resounding…. what was that clutching my heart?? Pain had its claws so firmly holding on to my heart, I could feel the blood dripping…. I gasped , no voice coming out…. just choking garbled noise ….. None to hear me or help … I was isolated, Away from this world …Away from human beings, Tucked away in a lonely place I called my private space….all alone in my mind. My feelings raw, exposed and shivering, But nobody was there with any remedy..
I was not dying and had no other option except living with this pain. But then I thought, What is causing the problem??? who is causing the problem ???? what's the reason??????? yeah... This time I had an answer... It's my Face.. Yes.. It's my face.....
I ran to the Mirror to see what the hell is wrong with my face, Why everybody is failing to recognize me..
I chose the biggest mirror available at my place. I just wanted all the answers with maximum clarity.....
Oh My god.. what happened to my face..I could not believe my eyes..I screamed....as my own face scared the hell out of me..
My face was completely covered with a “MASK”. A dark thick “mask”. I did not have eyes, ears, nose, cheeks and chin. In fact, I just had few words mentioned there, It was hard for me to read those words, So I took off my specs...That's when I was able to read those words on my face.. I tried reading them... and I could see.... Pride...Wrath...Envy....Selfishness...Lust....Greed....Anger...... written all over my face.....
My fists were getting tighter, I was sweating, shivering but was still feeling helpless and could do nothing but scream. I screamed at the person in the mirror , He did not respond, Again I screamed, Still no response..all of a sudden I heard a voice, But it was not coming from the mirror. ........It was me, Talking to me........
I kept looking at the mirror, But listening to that voice...
“” You have thought enough about your parents and your friends and the people around you. You cried a lot about the things which did not happen or should have happened. You spoke a lot about what you should have got and did not get. You talked about your identity and persona, You talked about changes taking place everywhere. But my Friend, You did not talk about what you deserve, What you owe and what you give.....You said your parents don't understand you, you might have realized it recently but they stopped understanding you when you first said to your mom “ ma, you just can't understand”. You were never required to mention your presence to your friends until you stopped being for them before thinking if they'll be around once you'll require. You are not crying because you are isolated, You are crying because now you have realized that you “need” someone at the moment, And this is something which you did not realize when somebody else needed you.”
Nothing in your life—finances, family, healing and so on will work to its fullest potential until you let go of selfishness and perfect your love walk. To be selfish is to "regard one's own interest;" selfishness is "a devotion to one's own interest." Selfishness and love are the two most powerful forces in existence. When you operate in one of these forces, you short–circuit the other. When you choose to love, you turn your back on selfishness. When you choose to be selfish, you turn your back on the opportunity to express love. There is no middle ground. You cannot love unconditionally and be unconditionally selfish as well. So stop pretending and accept, that in the past few years or so many years you have thought about yourself and nobody else”
You lost your eyes because you see only what you want to see, You lost your ears because u can hear only what benefits you, You lost your nose because you go only to the place from where you can smell a profit, You lost your forehead because you feel extremely proud of yourself and don't look at the people below you and you finally lost your mouth when you started flattering people by lying and stopped mentioning if you really care.
Since Now you have seen what actually you are, I am giving you one more chance to get rid of this “MASK”. I can understand that you can't undo what you have done, but surely can live rest of your life in a way, that you won't have to regret for. Otherwise right now it's just the face which I have occupied, rest of your body is still left.....””
I am speechless..My face is still missing... I am still down on my knees.. and trying to take this “MASK” off...
...
Some of the craziest things have been happening with me for last few years and it has everything to do with my identity, Deeds and Existence
When i was born, It was a reason to smile for my parents, When grew up, It was another mark of identity in the class room, After some more time, It became the example of so many notorious acts, Then became something on my admit card, Then something on my Pan card, Then a 2x2 inches part of my office ID card, also something which get me “hellozz” and “hiizz” when people look at it and yes I am talking about “Face”my “Face”, The most integral part of one's identity and personality. However this same old “face” of mine has now started creating some disastrous and never-felt- before troubles for me.
We all know, That like all other physical changes, Even our face keeps on changing. In terms of size, color, marks and puberty. But I never knew that apart from these “normal changes”, Some far more “abnormal” and “extraordinary” changes can also occur.
It's been 4 years since I have left my hometown. It was 26th of November 2006 when I boarded the train to Delhi and I was 20 years of age then. And I did not know if there are any physical changes yet to take place in me. In these four years, I kept visiting to my hometown in every six months or in an year. However now I have started feeling that the reactions of the people around me have changed. No matter whom I am going to, In any minor or major way, I have to prove my identity to everyone. Let it be my parents, Brother, Friends, Colleague, Uncles, Aunts and almost to everybody I encounter with and it's not about the people only in the hometown but with everybody whom I know from my childhood. Majority of those people are there in my hometown and that's why I get to feel this really badly when I am there in my hometown.
For me, Being with parents is something which cannot be compared with any other treasure or pleasure in the whole world. It's like a universal truth that your mom and dad can understand your feelings even if you don't express or say anything. Things were not different with me either. Every wish fulfilled, Every tears wiped and ever pain healed right from the moment I was born until now. But now, I don't know why but the “communication” has become the only medium to convey the feeling across, Which never really was required.
How come now I have to tell them that “Mom, Dad I love you”.Parents cannot be like this, At least my parents cannot be like this..Who did that to them, Rather who did that to our love.?? why do I need to tell them that I am there son??? why don't they recognize me?? what has happened to my face???....no answer came.....
Friends, Whom I have known from my childhood. Non of us ever required to say that “we are there for each other”. We fought for each other, Laughed with each other, Celebrated parties, Cried together, Laughed together, Were there with each other when required and even when it was not required. In fact, I can't think of a single moment, When we were not required or “unwanted” for each other, Then why the hell now even after being with them they can't recognize me?? why should I tell them every time that I am their friend??? why don't they give me the same warmth even after looking at my face????why do I need to tell them that I am there for them...what has happened to my face???????.......no answer came.......
Looking at the people you don't know and getting strange looks and cold response is completely normal and anticipated. But getting same strange response from the people with whom I have spent years causes and caused an unbearable agony deep within. But the saga did not stop there, Suddenly I realized that it's not only my friends and parents, But the whole world has become stranger for me. Cold responses, Strange looks , An expectation to prove my identity and an explanation of my past life and existence is all I was getting from everywhere.
Then I decided to sit with "Solitude", This "agony" and “Myself”. Because I wanted solitude to kill either agony or “me”.
It was paining and was paining like anything. Choked emotions, Forbidden desires, Pierced thoughts and dried tears. I was cluttered with all these things.
A choked feeling…there was no one around…… my sobs resounding…. what was that clutching my heart?? Pain had its claws so firmly holding on to my heart, I could feel the blood dripping…. I gasped , no voice coming out…. just choking garbled noise ….. None to hear me or help … I was isolated, Away from this world …Away from human beings, Tucked away in a lonely place I called my private space….all alone in my mind. My feelings raw, exposed and shivering, But nobody was there with any remedy..
I was not dying and had no other option except living with this pain. But then I thought, What is causing the problem??? who is causing the problem ???? what's the reason??????? yeah... This time I had an answer... It's my Face.. Yes.. It's my face.....
I ran to the Mirror to see what the hell is wrong with my face, Why everybody is failing to recognize me..
I chose the biggest mirror available at my place. I just wanted all the answers with maximum clarity.....
Oh My god.. what happened to my face..I could not believe my eyes..I screamed....as my own face scared the hell out of me..
My face was completely covered with a “MASK”. A dark thick “mask”. I did not have eyes, ears, nose, cheeks and chin. In fact, I just had few words mentioned there, It was hard for me to read those words, So I took off my specs...That's when I was able to read those words on my face.. I tried reading them... and I could see.... Pride...Wrath...Envy....Selfishness...Lust....Greed....Anger...... written all over my face.....
My fists were getting tighter, I was sweating, shivering but was still feeling helpless and could do nothing but scream. I screamed at the person in the mirror , He did not respond, Again I screamed, Still no response..all of a sudden I heard a voice, But it was not coming from the mirror. ........It was me, Talking to me........
I kept looking at the mirror, But listening to that voice...
“” You have thought enough about your parents and your friends and the people around you. You cried a lot about the things which did not happen or should have happened. You spoke a lot about what you should have got and did not get. You talked about your identity and persona, You talked about changes taking place everywhere. But my Friend, You did not talk about what you deserve, What you owe and what you give.....You said your parents don't understand you, you might have realized it recently but they stopped understanding you when you first said to your mom “ ma, you just can't understand”. You were never required to mention your presence to your friends until you stopped being for them before thinking if they'll be around once you'll require. You are not crying because you are isolated, You are crying because now you have realized that you “need” someone at the moment, And this is something which you did not realize when somebody else needed you.”
Nothing in your life—finances, family, healing and so on will work to its fullest potential until you let go of selfishness and perfect your love walk. To be selfish is to "regard one's own interest;" selfishness is "a devotion to one's own interest." Selfishness and love are the two most powerful forces in existence. When you operate in one of these forces, you short–circuit the other. When you choose to love, you turn your back on selfishness. When you choose to be selfish, you turn your back on the opportunity to express love. There is no middle ground. You cannot love unconditionally and be unconditionally selfish as well. So stop pretending and accept, that in the past few years or so many years you have thought about yourself and nobody else”
You lost your eyes because you see only what you want to see, You lost your ears because u can hear only what benefits you, You lost your nose because you go only to the place from where you can smell a profit, You lost your forehead because you feel extremely proud of yourself and don't look at the people below you and you finally lost your mouth when you started flattering people by lying and stopped mentioning if you really care.
Since Now you have seen what actually you are, I am giving you one more chance to get rid of this “MASK”. I can understand that you can't undo what you have done, but surely can live rest of your life in a way, that you won't have to regret for. Otherwise right now it's just the face which I have occupied, rest of your body is still left.....””
I am speechless..My face is still missing... I am still down on my knees.. and trying to take this “MASK” off...
...
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
These Three Words.....
Hi Friends,
Because of few of my last posts in which I have tried and put across the ground reality of “love” and the “Love Marriage” , I can sense that few of my readers might think that why this jerk is being nasty about the things he has done but still does not want others to do, So I would like to reply it in my good old manner , This is again something which I read somewhere.........
“An idiot is a person who makes a mistake and then learns a lesson, But an Intelligent is someone who watches others making mistakes and learns from it.”
That's why I have always thought that I am the only stupid bloke in my past, present and probably future gang, who keeps on setting examples (or making mistakes), so that others can learn from it and can become one which I could not be and that is “Intelligent”.
So my friends, today I am going to share one more “GYAN” about something which has completely screwed our generation, The deadliest three words “ I Love You”....... If you have been into a relationship, or you unluckier if you still are in one, Then you need to keep in mind that these three words are expected from your mouth every now and then but if you are expecting “ I Love You too” everytime, Then my friend you are digging your own grave and asking for something too much and too dangerous. As not only the reply but also the situation of the reply can get you into a big time trouble or in a traumatic condition.
Here goes my “KATHA”.......
Gone are the days when my “I love you” would evoke an echo from my wife. I say echo because she would give me that romantic look and say “I love you.” It is a totally unrelated thing that as an afterthought, she would add “too”…meaning “I love you too”.
Now, When we are married for two and half years , things are changing. “I love you” no longer gets me romantic looks. They no longer get me similar meaning, if not similar sounding words.
Wouldn’t have put it up for the World to see, had it not been for what happened few days back. I was leaving for office, and as I have learnt from the Hindi movies , it is alright to kiss your wife when leaving for office , so I held her close and kissed her good bye. Before we parted, I softly whispered into her ears: “I love you”.
“Will you be recharging my cell phone in the evening?”.........that was a reply i guessed.
For a moment, I thought maybe she hadn’t heard me say “I love you”…but the sweet thing that I am, as I just love akon's song “I took the blame on me” so I took the blame by thinking that maybe it was my mistake and I hadn’t said it loudly enough. I whispered again: “I love you”.
“I know, but will you be recharging me cell phone today as I am just not feeling to go out just for a recharge!”........ yes that was the reply infact.
There was a time when my “I love you” would get really positive response. So positive that at times I would be forced to call up my boss and say I would be coming in late. Over the last two and half years, the quality of responses has been dwindling. Here is a list of responses that I got (I have given it date-wise so that the married among the readers could benefit, and who are not married can be proud of being single).
Important: We married on 2nd September 2007
December 25, 2007
Me: I love you
Wife: I love you too!
July 30, 2008:
Me: I love you
Wife: I love your hair-style.
September 05, 2008
Me: I love you
Wife: I love your voice over the phone.
December 11, 2008:
Me: I love you
Wife: I love it when you call me!
February 01, 2009:
Me: I love you
Wife: I love your shirt.
April 20, 2009:
Me: I love you
Wife: When will you come home in the evening?
(Notice how the responses have changed from personal to situational)
May 14, 2009:
Me: I love you
Wife: Will you call up your parents today? You haven’t spoken to them in the last three weeks.
July 09, 2009:
Me: I love you
Wife: Will you stay back home today, I need to be out with my friend A****.
September 22, 2009:
Me: I love you
Wife:I am going to sleep.
April 15, 2010:
Me: I love you
Wife:: “Will you be recharging my cell phone in the evening”.
So much of the “ I Love You” and non existent “ I Love You Too”.
And thank god, my wife does'nt give a damn to my blog.
Cheers.....
Because of few of my last posts in which I have tried and put across the ground reality of “love” and the “Love Marriage” , I can sense that few of my readers might think that why this jerk is being nasty about the things he has done but still does not want others to do, So I would like to reply it in my good old manner , This is again something which I read somewhere.........
“An idiot is a person who makes a mistake and then learns a lesson, But an Intelligent is someone who watches others making mistakes and learns from it.”
That's why I have always thought that I am the only stupid bloke in my past, present and probably future gang, who keeps on setting examples (or making mistakes), so that others can learn from it and can become one which I could not be and that is “Intelligent”.
So my friends, today I am going to share one more “GYAN” about something which has completely screwed our generation, The deadliest three words “ I Love You”....... If you have been into a relationship, or you unluckier if you still are in one, Then you need to keep in mind that these three words are expected from your mouth every now and then but if you are expecting “ I Love You too” everytime, Then my friend you are digging your own grave and asking for something too much and too dangerous. As not only the reply but also the situation of the reply can get you into a big time trouble or in a traumatic condition.
Here goes my “KATHA”.......
Gone are the days when my “I love you” would evoke an echo from my wife. I say echo because she would give me that romantic look and say “I love you.” It is a totally unrelated thing that as an afterthought, she would add “too”…meaning “I love you too”.
Now, When we are married for two and half years , things are changing. “I love you” no longer gets me romantic looks. They no longer get me similar meaning, if not similar sounding words.
Wouldn’t have put it up for the World to see, had it not been for what happened few days back. I was leaving for office, and as I have learnt from the Hindi movies , it is alright to kiss your wife when leaving for office , so I held her close and kissed her good bye. Before we parted, I softly whispered into her ears: “I love you”.
“Will you be recharging my cell phone in the evening?”.........that was a reply i guessed.
For a moment, I thought maybe she hadn’t heard me say “I love you”…but the sweet thing that I am, as I just love akon's song “I took the blame on me” so I took the blame by thinking that maybe it was my mistake and I hadn’t said it loudly enough. I whispered again: “I love you”.
“I know, but will you be recharging me cell phone today as I am just not feeling to go out just for a recharge!”........ yes that was the reply infact.
There was a time when my “I love you” would get really positive response. So positive that at times I would be forced to call up my boss and say I would be coming in late. Over the last two and half years, the quality of responses has been dwindling. Here is a list of responses that I got (I have given it date-wise so that the married among the readers could benefit, and who are not married can be proud of being single).
Important: We married on 2nd September 2007
December 25, 2007
Me: I love you
Wife: I love you too!
July 30, 2008:
Me: I love you
Wife: I love your hair-style.
September 05, 2008
Me: I love you
Wife: I love your voice over the phone.
December 11, 2008:
Me: I love you
Wife: I love it when you call me!
February 01, 2009:
Me: I love you
Wife: I love your shirt.
April 20, 2009:
Me: I love you
Wife: When will you come home in the evening?
(Notice how the responses have changed from personal to situational)
May 14, 2009:
Me: I love you
Wife: Will you call up your parents today? You haven’t spoken to them in the last three weeks.
July 09, 2009:
Me: I love you
Wife: Will you stay back home today, I need to be out with my friend A****.
September 22, 2009:
Me: I love you
Wife:I am going to sleep.
April 15, 2010:
Me: I love you
Wife:: “Will you be recharging my cell phone in the evening”.
So much of the “ I Love You” and non existent “ I Love You Too”.
And thank god, my wife does'nt give a damn to my blog.
Cheers.....
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Let's Forget it.....
Hi Friends,
Today, I've decided to write about the intangible, yet most important thing in Life, Memories...
When you most want to remember something, it doesn’t come to you. When you most want to forget something, it doesn’t close the door behind.Like layers, each memory sits on the other — marking its place in the mind and its position on the stack. Not necessarily chronologically, but by a vague self-serving importance. We often believe that a particularly unpleasant memory sits on the top of the stack only to trouble us, haunt us and cause deep agony, remind us of all that we would like to forget.
Forgetting something is just a matter of rearranging the memory stack (and no, I am not indulging in tech-lingo here) and it seems to be inherited to the human nature.
"The whole of world history often seems to me nothing more than a picture book which portrays humanity’s most powerful and senseless desire, “The desire to forget”.
This was said by some Mr. Hermann Hesse, winner of noble prize in literature. I found this quote by just random “googling”, He may have said this in a completely different context, it is true about those delinquent memories that we try to avoid looking in the face. In order to push back a memory down the stack, we keep calling it. Like a file on a computer’s disk, it keeps coming up front; it’s accessed. But this memory cannot be wiped out, these are files that cannot be erased . They may be forgotten and archived or may even get lost, but will never be erased.
And for good reason. I have forgotten many things, when I think of them, I think there is a good reason even for that.. And then, one fine morning, The memory stack gets reordered.
The most unpleasant of all memories will serve you well someday. When it comes to the top of the stack in a completely different context, you will know something that you didn’t before — see it in a way that you never did. Remember to forget what you don’t need to remember. You will remember it when you need to.
“The greater gift to humankind is the ability to remember. But, the greatest gift to humankind is the ability forget.”
The above said is again something which I read somewhere, As we know, That most of the times we remember only what we want to remember and forget what we don't want to remember, So ultimately it's our choice, So let's choose the best for ourselves because we live our life surrounded by memories. Good ones, bad ones, and some really ugly ones. So it's up to us to decide which one to live with.
There is something about the mechanical nature in us that often denies us the forgetting of bad memories. We somehow become slave to them. They keep popping up at the most inappropriate times, moving us from a state of low-spirits to dejection. At that precise moment however, the good memories that will bring some relief to the feeling of despair, never seem to surface. They remain hidden, blurred, like under the uniform blue of a deep ocean.
Maybe it is a lesson for us in life, we have to be able to string together the good ones, on a very short string too, and keep them on the top of the stack. Keep them accessible. Because the more bad and ugly things that you remember about someone or something or someplace, the more you concrete your perception about it.
In recent time I have found it amusing, How we use the negative memories as evidence in our arguments that are against somebody. Whenever there is a collusion of thoughts or simply a fight, we don't forget to mention what negative thing the other person said or did few days or at times even few years back. That too, like “facts”. Memories aren’t dominating in that, a good memory does not cancel a bad one. Even if you assume that you have equal number of good and bad memories, the bad ones seem to float better.
And the biggest consequence of the wrong choice on memory is "The Pain".caused by a bad memory, possibly leaves a deeper and pronounced scar that is difficult to ignore. Perhaps it is about letting go, perhaps it is about forgiving. I do not know. But I know this: it is definitely about forgetting the bad ones.
Have you ever traveled the proverbial road down memory lane? Or possibly the physical road of past homes and lives? Our memory often plays games with reality and easily brings forward the good thoughts often shadowing challenges and difficulties. One stroll, without emotional checks in place, can lead us on a path of memory bliss and if not careful – will cloud the thoughts of the present. Current struggles become impassable mountains and exotic waterfalls and fields of flowers overtake the current hardship. But, it is an illusion for the people who keep looking for an excuse to highlight the “negative”.
Also on a spiritual note, It isn’t wrong to take an occasional stroll down memory lane or even gaze at the grass. We just have to be reminded that we live here and now and God has great things He wants to do this here and now through us. After all, all of this is for His glory and not comfort or satisfaction . Learn from the past and strive for the goal of the upward call of the Almighty. Otherwise, we will spend our Life seeking illusive future and imaginative yesteryear.
So all in all,
We need to remember to forget, to live a better life.
what say friends????
Cheers...
Today, I've decided to write about the intangible, yet most important thing in Life, Memories...
When you most want to remember something, it doesn’t come to you. When you most want to forget something, it doesn’t close the door behind.Like layers, each memory sits on the other — marking its place in the mind and its position on the stack. Not necessarily chronologically, but by a vague self-serving importance. We often believe that a particularly unpleasant memory sits on the top of the stack only to trouble us, haunt us and cause deep agony, remind us of all that we would like to forget.
Forgetting something is just a matter of rearranging the memory stack (and no, I am not indulging in tech-lingo here) and it seems to be inherited to the human nature.
"The whole of world history often seems to me nothing more than a picture book which portrays humanity’s most powerful and senseless desire, “The desire to forget”.
This was said by some Mr. Hermann Hesse, winner of noble prize in literature. I found this quote by just random “googling”, He may have said this in a completely different context, it is true about those delinquent memories that we try to avoid looking in the face. In order to push back a memory down the stack, we keep calling it. Like a file on a computer’s disk, it keeps coming up front; it’s accessed. But this memory cannot be wiped out, these are files that cannot be erased . They may be forgotten and archived or may even get lost, but will never be erased.
And for good reason. I have forgotten many things, when I think of them, I think there is a good reason even for that.. And then, one fine morning, The memory stack gets reordered.
The most unpleasant of all memories will serve you well someday. When it comes to the top of the stack in a completely different context, you will know something that you didn’t before — see it in a way that you never did. Remember to forget what you don’t need to remember. You will remember it when you need to.
“The greater gift to humankind is the ability to remember. But, the greatest gift to humankind is the ability forget.”
The above said is again something which I read somewhere, As we know, That most of the times we remember only what we want to remember and forget what we don't want to remember, So ultimately it's our choice, So let's choose the best for ourselves because we live our life surrounded by memories. Good ones, bad ones, and some really ugly ones. So it's up to us to decide which one to live with.
There is something about the mechanical nature in us that often denies us the forgetting of bad memories. We somehow become slave to them. They keep popping up at the most inappropriate times, moving us from a state of low-spirits to dejection. At that precise moment however, the good memories that will bring some relief to the feeling of despair, never seem to surface. They remain hidden, blurred, like under the uniform blue of a deep ocean.
Maybe it is a lesson for us in life, we have to be able to string together the good ones, on a very short string too, and keep them on the top of the stack. Keep them accessible. Because the more bad and ugly things that you remember about someone or something or someplace, the more you concrete your perception about it.
In recent time I have found it amusing, How we use the negative memories as evidence in our arguments that are against somebody. Whenever there is a collusion of thoughts or simply a fight, we don't forget to mention what negative thing the other person said or did few days or at times even few years back. That too, like “facts”. Memories aren’t dominating in that, a good memory does not cancel a bad one. Even if you assume that you have equal number of good and bad memories, the bad ones seem to float better.
And the biggest consequence of the wrong choice on memory is "The Pain".caused by a bad memory, possibly leaves a deeper and pronounced scar that is difficult to ignore. Perhaps it is about letting go, perhaps it is about forgiving. I do not know. But I know this: it is definitely about forgetting the bad ones.
Have you ever traveled the proverbial road down memory lane? Or possibly the physical road of past homes and lives? Our memory often plays games with reality and easily brings forward the good thoughts often shadowing challenges and difficulties. One stroll, without emotional checks in place, can lead us on a path of memory bliss and if not careful – will cloud the thoughts of the present. Current struggles become impassable mountains and exotic waterfalls and fields of flowers overtake the current hardship. But, it is an illusion for the people who keep looking for an excuse to highlight the “negative”.
Also on a spiritual note, It isn’t wrong to take an occasional stroll down memory lane or even gaze at the grass. We just have to be reminded that we live here and now and God has great things He wants to do this here and now through us. After all, all of this is for His glory and not comfort or satisfaction . Learn from the past and strive for the goal of the upward call of the Almighty. Otherwise, we will spend our Life seeking illusive future and imaginative yesteryear.
So all in all,
We need to remember to forget, to live a better life.
what say friends????
Cheers...
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Better " Half "......
Hi Friends,
It's been a really long time, since I've been thinking about this term “Better Half”. We use this term when we talk about our or one's spouse. But believe me, Whenever “I “ use this term for my partner, I silently mean “Bitter Half”. But somewhere in my mind I always had this doubt that why that “Half” is better than a “Full” me.
If we go by the meaning mentioned in the vocabulary, It says... better half means “The larger amount or majority of something,” or “Spouse”. and my friends don't worry, I am not going to talk about "Spouse" here. Neither mine, Nor yours...
So I decided to thought and after having decided to thought, I finally started thinking and then I got another thought..
There are so many things in life which are better only if they are “half” and not “full”.
Let's start with the most complicated thing which exists.......”Life”......... If I talk about myself, I think that I am halfway through my life ( I am extremely optimistic person and I did not want to compromise with anything less or more, like living for 100 yrs and all). Because I had read it somewhere, That normally, People keep on making mistakes in half of their lives and rest of their lives, They just pay for those mistakes which they have made earlier in their lives. That's the reason why I guess that the second half of the life will be better as I have already started paying for the mistakes I made in the first half my life and now I am free to make many more as those mistakes will not be able to catch hold of me and I won't have to pay for them,,,,Hurray.....
Also on a serious note, Life is a constant learning process, However I have learned the basics of life (again I am being too optimistic, I know.) So far and even if I have to pay for the mistakes I have made, I guess life itself has taught me how to deal with it.
So three cheers to “Half Life”......
And after a wonderful "Half Life", I would like to talk about another thing which is as it's best when it's half and that is "Night", "Half Night".
For youngsters, Night starts when it's half passed and no matter if you are sitting with friends, Girlfriend or simply lonely..that's the best time to do what you are good at. For example if you like talking and getting into a debate or something, that's the time when you can find all the vents of you mind open. and as mentioned earlier we don't need a full night to utilize it (in any possible way). it's just the second half which gives you the real groove. Writers get most incredible writing idea, Painters get most colorful visions and countless number of beds get broken from 00:00 to 04:00 Hrs due to some really passionate making out sessions( i've googled it and found this 'bed breaking' stats, though i did not contribute). Jokes apart but the second half of the night is the time when one really gets to know and does excatly what one wants, Because most of the time we don't do what we want to do but just do what we have to do and this second half of the night just lets you follow your heart, desires, passions and ambitions.
Then comes the "BIG ONE"... Love Story or "Half Love stories", Here when i say "Half Love stories", It also means "incomplete love stories" and unlike the "Night", Love stories and more enjoyable and memorable in the first half because in the later part there are only two possibilities...first and most likely there will be a "break up" and in the worst scenario the story might end up in the wedding ceremony of the couple. Reason why i am saying that the first half is better because when you get into a relationship or looking to get into a relationship, Everything seems really wonderful and majestic. Like writing love letters...oops i am sorry, i meant chatting on phone all night, going to CCD, watching movies and discussing about the endless possibilities of the future. Along with that, There are extreme amount of fun in just looking for a chance to touch, kiss and hug. In the beginning girl never dislikes when her man talks to some other chic and tries to magnetize him with more passion and expression of love but later on she wants to be the only girl in her partner's life (which is not wrong) but this time not with passion or love but by sheer force. Same with boys as in the beginning they just don't stop calling their love all day and night but slowly and gradually, Even replying to their text becomes a headache for them. So all in all, We create so many sweet memories in the first half of a "Love Story", But we bitterly regret for those memories in the later part.
(above mentioned feelings i have taken from the post "the break up" from my friend, aman's blog www.amanandlifeaajkal.blogspot.com as unfortunetly i did not come across any of these things during my love story, So i never knew what was the majority up to, thanks to aman.)
Now some more interesting stuffs.....
"Half Asleep".....That's awesome coz when you are completely slept... you are dead..as simple as that. Because you don't get to know how badly you wanted to sleep and how well are you sleeping. When you are half asleep, Means you are neither slept nor awake, But you really want to sleep but due to some positive or negative reason you are anable to do so, Even if you are in this stage for 10 minutes, every second you think how badly you need to sleep and during these 10 minutes, few seconds you'll be awake and then again you are slept for few seconds. few people (including me) even see dreams in installments. sometimes a nap of 5 minutes relaxes you much more than a full sleep of 8 Hrs (tested and verified at so many offices and lecture rooms).
"Half Cigarrette"...yes my friends, It's an experience which only a smoker can understand. You have just taken your lunch or dinner, Or just finished a beer or just had fight with somebody on the phone and all you want to do is "Smoke"..you rush to a shop or if you are lucky and farsighted then you take out one from you pocket and just don't like watching a full cigarette, wihtout any delay you light it. after few puffs you feel much relaxed and then you look at that "half cigarrette" and silently thanks to it One more thing, which has happened with me manier times, I am out of cigarettes , not feeling to go out and get one, I look here and there but unable to find one, i look up and down, in the drawer, in the almirah, in the kitchen, even under the pillow but failed to find one.. then all of a sudden, i rush to the rubbish bin and near that i found a "half" burnt cigarette, thrown by myself earlier in the day , and believe me it becomes a saviour for me..
Getting "Half Drunk".....That's a magical experience.. you are not that drunk to fall asleep neither less to behave normally, It's just you and your thoughts without any fence of formality inbetween. that's when you start talking what you really feel, Without thinking about what impact it will make on the listener, you get vocal, expressive and as casual as one can be, but still you don't cross the limit and keep on saying "ye mat soch ki main peekar bol raha hu".sometimes you call your very old friend and tell him that you still miss him/her or call a very close friend with whome you meet daily and tell him him that u never liked him.At times you even call your ex and check if she is okay now, but beware of this instance, if she is okay then don't go for more drink coz you might end up, making another call to her and abusing her for being extra adaptive in her life.
Apart from these above mentioned thing, there are few more things which are best, when they are half, However i will not elaborate on them and leave it to you to let me if you like them "full" or "half". well other nice "half" things are:-- Girl's dresses, First half of Michael Doulglas' movies, Bike's half seat (only if shared with a nice hot chic) and last but can not be least...a half ORGASM...
I've tried and mentioned what i feel in bits and pieces, however the motive benind writing this post is a decision which i have made. Decision to fall in complete love with so many incomplete things around, Because most of us, most of the times incompletely love only the complete things but if we start to love the imcomplete things around with complete honesty, then i guess the world be a real "complete"place to live..
Cheers....
It's been a really long time, since I've been thinking about this term “Better Half”. We use this term when we talk about our or one's spouse. But believe me, Whenever “I “ use this term for my partner, I silently mean “Bitter Half”. But somewhere in my mind I always had this doubt that why that “Half” is better than a “Full” me.
If we go by the meaning mentioned in the vocabulary, It says... better half means “The larger amount or majority of something,” or “Spouse”. and my friends don't worry, I am not going to talk about "Spouse" here. Neither mine, Nor yours...
So I decided to thought and after having decided to thought, I finally started thinking and then I got another thought..
There are so many things in life which are better only if they are “half” and not “full”.
Let's start with the most complicated thing which exists.......”Life”......... If I talk about myself, I think that I am halfway through my life ( I am extremely optimistic person and I did not want to compromise with anything less or more, like living for 100 yrs and all). Because I had read it somewhere, That normally, People keep on making mistakes in half of their lives and rest of their lives, They just pay for those mistakes which they have made earlier in their lives. That's the reason why I guess that the second half of the life will be better as I have already started paying for the mistakes I made in the first half my life and now I am free to make many more as those mistakes will not be able to catch hold of me and I won't have to pay for them,,,,Hurray.....
Also on a serious note, Life is a constant learning process, However I have learned the basics of life (again I am being too optimistic, I know.) So far and even if I have to pay for the mistakes I have made, I guess life itself has taught me how to deal with it.
So three cheers to “Half Life”......
And after a wonderful "Half Life", I would like to talk about another thing which is as it's best when it's half and that is "Night", "Half Night".
For youngsters, Night starts when it's half passed and no matter if you are sitting with friends, Girlfriend or simply lonely..that's the best time to do what you are good at. For example if you like talking and getting into a debate or something, that's the time when you can find all the vents of you mind open. and as mentioned earlier we don't need a full night to utilize it (in any possible way). it's just the second half which gives you the real groove. Writers get most incredible writing idea, Painters get most colorful visions and countless number of beds get broken from 00:00 to 04:00 Hrs due to some really passionate making out sessions( i've googled it and found this 'bed breaking' stats, though i did not contribute). Jokes apart but the second half of the night is the time when one really gets to know and does excatly what one wants, Because most of the time we don't do what we want to do but just do what we have to do and this second half of the night just lets you follow your heart, desires, passions and ambitions.
Then comes the "BIG ONE"... Love Story or "Half Love stories", Here when i say "Half Love stories", It also means "incomplete love stories" and unlike the "Night", Love stories and more enjoyable and memorable in the first half because in the later part there are only two possibilities...first and most likely there will be a "break up" and in the worst scenario the story might end up in the wedding ceremony of the couple. Reason why i am saying that the first half is better because when you get into a relationship or looking to get into a relationship, Everything seems really wonderful and majestic. Like writing love letters...oops i am sorry, i meant chatting on phone all night, going to CCD, watching movies and discussing about the endless possibilities of the future. Along with that, There are extreme amount of fun in just looking for a chance to touch, kiss and hug. In the beginning girl never dislikes when her man talks to some other chic and tries to magnetize him with more passion and expression of love but later on she wants to be the only girl in her partner's life (which is not wrong) but this time not with passion or love but by sheer force. Same with boys as in the beginning they just don't stop calling their love all day and night but slowly and gradually, Even replying to their text becomes a headache for them. So all in all, We create so many sweet memories in the first half of a "Love Story", But we bitterly regret for those memories in the later part.
(above mentioned feelings i have taken from the post "the break up" from my friend, aman's blog www.amanandlifeaajkal.blogspot.com as unfortunetly i did not come across any of these things during my love story, So i never knew what was the majority up to, thanks to aman.)
Now some more interesting stuffs.....
"Half Asleep".....That's awesome coz when you are completely slept... you are dead..as simple as that. Because you don't get to know how badly you wanted to sleep and how well are you sleeping. When you are half asleep, Means you are neither slept nor awake, But you really want to sleep but due to some positive or negative reason you are anable to do so, Even if you are in this stage for 10 minutes, every second you think how badly you need to sleep and during these 10 minutes, few seconds you'll be awake and then again you are slept for few seconds. few people (including me) even see dreams in installments. sometimes a nap of 5 minutes relaxes you much more than a full sleep of 8 Hrs (tested and verified at so many offices and lecture rooms).
"Half Cigarrette"...yes my friends, It's an experience which only a smoker can understand. You have just taken your lunch or dinner, Or just finished a beer or just had fight with somebody on the phone and all you want to do is "Smoke"..you rush to a shop or if you are lucky and farsighted then you take out one from you pocket and just don't like watching a full cigarette, wihtout any delay you light it. after few puffs you feel much relaxed and then you look at that "half cigarrette" and silently thanks to it One more thing, which has happened with me manier times, I am out of cigarettes , not feeling to go out and get one, I look here and there but unable to find one, i look up and down, in the drawer, in the almirah, in the kitchen, even under the pillow but failed to find one.. then all of a sudden, i rush to the rubbish bin and near that i found a "half" burnt cigarette, thrown by myself earlier in the day , and believe me it becomes a saviour for me..
Getting "Half Drunk".....That's a magical experience.. you are not that drunk to fall asleep neither less to behave normally, It's just you and your thoughts without any fence of formality inbetween. that's when you start talking what you really feel, Without thinking about what impact it will make on the listener, you get vocal, expressive and as casual as one can be, but still you don't cross the limit and keep on saying "ye mat soch ki main peekar bol raha hu".sometimes you call your very old friend and tell him that you still miss him/her or call a very close friend with whome you meet daily and tell him him that u never liked him.At times you even call your ex and check if she is okay now, but beware of this instance, if she is okay then don't go for more drink coz you might end up, making another call to her and abusing her for being extra adaptive in her life.
Apart from these above mentioned thing, there are few more things which are best, when they are half, However i will not elaborate on them and leave it to you to let me if you like them "full" or "half". well other nice "half" things are:-- Girl's dresses, First half of Michael Doulglas' movies, Bike's half seat (only if shared with a nice hot chic) and last but can not be least...a half ORGASM...
I've tried and mentioned what i feel in bits and pieces, however the motive benind writing this post is a decision which i have made. Decision to fall in complete love with so many incomplete things around, Because most of us, most of the times incompletely love only the complete things but if we start to love the imcomplete things around with complete honesty, then i guess the world be a real "complete"place to live..
Cheers....
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
Spicy Dalit Burger......
Hi Friends,
The recipe is simple and entirely home grown. Only thing different here is the absence of bread. Take some drama as one leaf and another a mix bag of pseudo sympathy and crocodile tears. Put a generous layer of vote bank instead of of butter and of course as the name suggests. You need a DALIT in between. Put it into a grill for sometime and have it hot with some tomato and chili sauce. Yummy....is'nt it??? At least few BSP and Congress leaders would agree to it, As far as their humanitarian taste in concerned.
Who are these dalits and how on earth they become an integral ingredient of indian politics rather cuisine. If you want to continue with it...To answer the first question, They are a special category of entities whom Mahatma gandhi fondly termed as Harijans some seven or eight decades back. Well thanks to this information provided to us in our fifth std. civics book. But only this info does not justify them being so important in contemporary politics. Mahatma Gandhi might have fondly termed many items or group of people with different names, But this certainly does not matter. Another example :- Mahatma Gandhi seriously equated honesty with leaders and leadership. But honesty is far fetched from out leaders these days. Why our so called leaders are so much interested for a particular synonym coined by Gandhiji??
There is no definite answer to this but close to a million possibilities. Majority of these Dalits are not educated enough to decide the good, Bad and ugly for themselves. Some say this ignorance of the three items actually is a medium of exploitation for them by the crooks in every walk of life. Let it be the guy providing them some income through the Hard work or their Chief Minister, Whom these guys believe is the last person caring for them. To keep this exploitation to be exploited, All the crooks who are benefiting, make sure that the last thing reaching these Dalits is the "education".
These half starved, Fully illiterate dalits never come into any one's activity radar until their is an election. So mathematically speaking and if the political situation allows, Then these guys are remembered by our Sarkar, Mantriji, All his Chamchas once in every five year. OK, I exaggerated. In an average, Not better than once in every three years or odd days like the birth and death anniversary of Ambedkar or off late with the grace of Mayawati on birth and death anniversary of Kansiram also. The same guys who promise to gift the Chanda mama to them along with making their respective villages no less than New york or Chicago, before election were never seen approaching them till the next election.
Even on these couple of days a year also none seems too interested in them beyond a tokenism. In the name of dalits and their icons like Ambedkar or self proclaimed icons like Mayawati or “The Mayawati”, The politicians get busy with the nude display of their power and ego. You don't need any better example than what happened few days back in Ambedkar Nagar to authenticate my claims.
(Ambedkar Nagar is a really small town in U.P. Which was earlier known as Akbarpur, However due to Dalitaization of so many cities in U.P., It became Ambedkar Nagar. Unfortunately, My father is a government officer in this city and is there for last 12 years and directly or indirectly every now and then he pays for being a non dalit and that's how I get to know all the real stuffs about the city beyond what prints on paper or gets aired on TV.)
Rahul Gandhi with his new found sudden love towards the dalits decided to honor Ambedkar on his birth anniversary along with flagging off something called Chetna Yatra on the occasion of 125 years of Congress. Quite few things rolled into one. Mayawati, Who is not very fond of Rahul Gandhi or this never heard of Yatra coupled with the fear of loosing few dalits to this new found lover of them and her belief that all dalits are her personal property, decided to show a big thumb to the congress general secretary. What followed is chaos of highest degree with Rahul Gandhi denied to do the garlanding of the statue, At least not before Mayawati does so.Was the respect to Ambedkar was on the agenda or who first shows the respect to him was? I guess the later.
Shouldn't it be termed as crocodile tears. In the name of showing respect these two human beings fought hard for their self respect. Ambedkar could wait for sometime. Time lines were drawn and the Gandhi camp was directed to wait with their set of plans till Mayawati gets over with hers. Good for Ambedkar that he would get a phase wise honour on his birthday. Ambedkar can't ask for a better birthday than this. Could he?
By the way has either of the camps ordered for a cake and few candles? And yes don't forget to get that knife to cut the damn cake in front of all those dalits, where one of their icons thankfully getting honored phase wise.
Long Live Indian Politics.....
Cheers.....
The recipe is simple and entirely home grown. Only thing different here is the absence of bread. Take some drama as one leaf and another a mix bag of pseudo sympathy and crocodile tears. Put a generous layer of vote bank instead of of butter and of course as the name suggests. You need a DALIT in between. Put it into a grill for sometime and have it hot with some tomato and chili sauce. Yummy....is'nt it??? At least few BSP and Congress leaders would agree to it, As far as their humanitarian taste in concerned.
Who are these dalits and how on earth they become an integral ingredient of indian politics rather cuisine. If you want to continue with it...To answer the first question, They are a special category of entities whom Mahatma gandhi fondly termed as Harijans some seven or eight decades back. Well thanks to this information provided to us in our fifth std. civics book. But only this info does not justify them being so important in contemporary politics. Mahatma Gandhi might have fondly termed many items or group of people with different names, But this certainly does not matter. Another example :- Mahatma Gandhi seriously equated honesty with leaders and leadership. But honesty is far fetched from out leaders these days. Why our so called leaders are so much interested for a particular synonym coined by Gandhiji??
There is no definite answer to this but close to a million possibilities. Majority of these Dalits are not educated enough to decide the good, Bad and ugly for themselves. Some say this ignorance of the three items actually is a medium of exploitation for them by the crooks in every walk of life. Let it be the guy providing them some income through the Hard work or their Chief Minister, Whom these guys believe is the last person caring for them. To keep this exploitation to be exploited, All the crooks who are benefiting, make sure that the last thing reaching these Dalits is the "education".
These half starved, Fully illiterate dalits never come into any one's activity radar until their is an election. So mathematically speaking and if the political situation allows, Then these guys are remembered by our Sarkar, Mantriji, All his Chamchas once in every five year. OK, I exaggerated. In an average, Not better than once in every three years or odd days like the birth and death anniversary of Ambedkar or off late with the grace of Mayawati on birth and death anniversary of Kansiram also. The same guys who promise to gift the Chanda mama to them along with making their respective villages no less than New york or Chicago, before election were never seen approaching them till the next election.
Even on these couple of days a year also none seems too interested in them beyond a tokenism. In the name of dalits and their icons like Ambedkar or self proclaimed icons like Mayawati or “The Mayawati”, The politicians get busy with the nude display of their power and ego. You don't need any better example than what happened few days back in Ambedkar Nagar to authenticate my claims.
(Ambedkar Nagar is a really small town in U.P. Which was earlier known as Akbarpur, However due to Dalitaization of so many cities in U.P., It became Ambedkar Nagar. Unfortunately, My father is a government officer in this city and is there for last 12 years and directly or indirectly every now and then he pays for being a non dalit and that's how I get to know all the real stuffs about the city beyond what prints on paper or gets aired on TV.)
Rahul Gandhi with his new found sudden love towards the dalits decided to honor Ambedkar on his birth anniversary along with flagging off something called Chetna Yatra on the occasion of 125 years of Congress. Quite few things rolled into one. Mayawati, Who is not very fond of Rahul Gandhi or this never heard of Yatra coupled with the fear of loosing few dalits to this new found lover of them and her belief that all dalits are her personal property, decided to show a big thumb to the congress general secretary. What followed is chaos of highest degree with Rahul Gandhi denied to do the garlanding of the statue, At least not before Mayawati does so.Was the respect to Ambedkar was on the agenda or who first shows the respect to him was? I guess the later.
Shouldn't it be termed as crocodile tears. In the name of showing respect these two human beings fought hard for their self respect. Ambedkar could wait for sometime. Time lines were drawn and the Gandhi camp was directed to wait with their set of plans till Mayawati gets over with hers. Good for Ambedkar that he would get a phase wise honour on his birthday. Ambedkar can't ask for a better birthday than this. Could he?
By the way has either of the camps ordered for a cake and few candles? And yes don't forget to get that knife to cut the damn cake in front of all those dalits, where one of their icons thankfully getting honored phase wise.
Long Live Indian Politics.....
Cheers.....
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Lessons...Taught By Life...
Hi Friends,
Today I wish to call my truths of life. I wish to say so many things. I don’t know that how it would turn into .May be my account would lack convincing clichés. In the uncertain domain of observing world I am placing myself into an arena where I can be scrutinized. My experience say’s that nothing worthwhile comes out of you unless you define yourself rather than letting people define you.
The mounting burden of “I being looked upon” as some sort of complex person makes me to explain the hard things of life. Let me make it very clear that it’s not an explanation to anybody in specific but a statement of life in general and to let all of you find your specific and respective references where i have been questioned. Hopefully my diction won’t disappoint anybody but even if they are not convinced then with all humbleness I regret my limitations ( and saying f**k off!).
I am ample clear that my chosen words would not be as straight as few may wish to read but surely it would carry the meaning more explicit then the words which many a times diminishes sheen of decency. Perhaps many may not take me as suitable and perfect man to state on the truth of life. I failed them many times, yet unproven I am lauded and for the unknown reasons I am still acceptable as failed man. I wonder at their modesty and I remain as it is with applauding people around me. I remain among them as their own but relatively kept as one who lacks in comparison to others…
I contested the relative comparison on certain ideals but they have valid reasons and the guts to accept me in imperfection but never accepted the ideals of which I believe in. I am admired and adored…showered lot of praise and I remain delighted because they commended me…I remain their man but still not perfect as they wanted me to be…I braved the odds they too join hands because they see no other alternative and yes they do take the credit that in spite of my imperfection they are enduring me…
All my successes (yes, even i have succeeded in so few things, few times) is celebrated and my setbacks with killing silence is absorbed to give me back later with the piercing oblique references. I understand their point of view and kept things intact and surely would never do anything to dismantle. My credence in the battling zone of life never gained the acknowledging pat of compassion…the expectation and denial gradually I accepted with humility…My own dwarfing world gained the silent stance to accept anything no matter what may come…In the bargain, I remained what I am but not to the disowning soul. without any conflict or question world is created where it is normal to be stranger in private and in public domain an absolute treat to eyes.
Well that’s what life is and I accepted the terms with very valid reasons and on the issues which are sacred to me (or scared from me). I won’t let anybody to pass stricture against neither I would ever do. The care as expected naturally flowed in but somewhere the core intensity vanished and just as the empty bodies dancing in the sky in isolation so as it is happening here. We glitter in our own way and charm the world. The world is watching these bodies up there and so as over here to us too. Everything is normal…yes it is and the truth is that normalcy cost but in return I see the dividends. Then I believe that life in its own way compensates us…it strikes balance…I am wondering that have you reached the core of my truth or still wandering in the periphery with your own truth. The baffling instances of life and its impact should not be written on your face and also your truth…
Experience how cruel it may be is not marketable…it is not salable …neither you have to put big hoarding of your pain on your face…I don’t believe in marketing my pain because I don’t wish to be in competition with other person’s pain and let the truth be judged and felt in most humane way…let it be felt intuitively…let this intuitive gesture not further dissect anybody but plain feel of the pulse would make you understand the truth.
Certain things are not spoken to maintain sanctity and let this truth be understood in correct perspective…
Remember, We are not fighting a battle of life to win it, But to live and let others live. Truth is the phenomena that has been cosmetically designed skeleton of emotions and that is lethal. Co-existence with difference defines the grace of a relation…let this grace be a subtle force to enhance the largeness of heart and creates the total meaning of real life where we don’t live in isolation…we have people around which are more precious than anybody…They need to be protected…we would like to see them growing…we would like to see them happy… we would like them to succeed…As they are seeing us to be happy…the balance has to be maintained.
In the world of parallels there exists another world of truth which we all live yet never wish to own up because there you draw lines without parallels…there you are asymmetry to others . I see the light…and in this world I see the light…
Are you scratching your head that what crap I am talking…it’s a perfect reaction which many would say it loudly…But I wish to hold this little world for me to live where I get wings…where I certainly don’t exist in real but yet the dream are so real…while doing so I do not know how I wish to be judged but even if I am judged they would know that I lived these dreams…the truth is not what we observe…truth is what we feel…truth too has its parallels, Let this not be contested as right or wrong...parallels are complementary too at times...
Now i am going to wrap up my thoughts here and believe me, Even i don't know why i have written these random things here, But one there is one thing i am sure of, That it might be tough to understand but rather easy to read. So happy reading...
Cheers....
Today I wish to call my truths of life. I wish to say so many things. I don’t know that how it would turn into .May be my account would lack convincing clichés. In the uncertain domain of observing world I am placing myself into an arena where I can be scrutinized. My experience say’s that nothing worthwhile comes out of you unless you define yourself rather than letting people define you.
The mounting burden of “I being looked upon” as some sort of complex person makes me to explain the hard things of life. Let me make it very clear that it’s not an explanation to anybody in specific but a statement of life in general and to let all of you find your specific and respective references where i have been questioned. Hopefully my diction won’t disappoint anybody but even if they are not convinced then with all humbleness I regret my limitations ( and saying f**k off!).
I am ample clear that my chosen words would not be as straight as few may wish to read but surely it would carry the meaning more explicit then the words which many a times diminishes sheen of decency. Perhaps many may not take me as suitable and perfect man to state on the truth of life. I failed them many times, yet unproven I am lauded and for the unknown reasons I am still acceptable as failed man. I wonder at their modesty and I remain as it is with applauding people around me. I remain among them as their own but relatively kept as one who lacks in comparison to others…
I contested the relative comparison on certain ideals but they have valid reasons and the guts to accept me in imperfection but never accepted the ideals of which I believe in. I am admired and adored…showered lot of praise and I remain delighted because they commended me…I remain their man but still not perfect as they wanted me to be…I braved the odds they too join hands because they see no other alternative and yes they do take the credit that in spite of my imperfection they are enduring me…
All my successes (yes, even i have succeeded in so few things, few times) is celebrated and my setbacks with killing silence is absorbed to give me back later with the piercing oblique references. I understand their point of view and kept things intact and surely would never do anything to dismantle. My credence in the battling zone of life never gained the acknowledging pat of compassion…the expectation and denial gradually I accepted with humility…My own dwarfing world gained the silent stance to accept anything no matter what may come…In the bargain, I remained what I am but not to the disowning soul. without any conflict or question world is created where it is normal to be stranger in private and in public domain an absolute treat to eyes.
Well that’s what life is and I accepted the terms with very valid reasons and on the issues which are sacred to me (or scared from me). I won’t let anybody to pass stricture against neither I would ever do. The care as expected naturally flowed in but somewhere the core intensity vanished and just as the empty bodies dancing in the sky in isolation so as it is happening here. We glitter in our own way and charm the world. The world is watching these bodies up there and so as over here to us too. Everything is normal…yes it is and the truth is that normalcy cost but in return I see the dividends. Then I believe that life in its own way compensates us…it strikes balance…I am wondering that have you reached the core of my truth or still wandering in the periphery with your own truth. The baffling instances of life and its impact should not be written on your face and also your truth…
Experience how cruel it may be is not marketable…it is not salable …neither you have to put big hoarding of your pain on your face…I don’t believe in marketing my pain because I don’t wish to be in competition with other person’s pain and let the truth be judged and felt in most humane way…let it be felt intuitively…let this intuitive gesture not further dissect anybody but plain feel of the pulse would make you understand the truth.
Certain things are not spoken to maintain sanctity and let this truth be understood in correct perspective…
Remember, We are not fighting a battle of life to win it, But to live and let others live. Truth is the phenomena that has been cosmetically designed skeleton of emotions and that is lethal. Co-existence with difference defines the grace of a relation…let this grace be a subtle force to enhance the largeness of heart and creates the total meaning of real life where we don’t live in isolation…we have people around which are more precious than anybody…They need to be protected…we would like to see them growing…we would like to see them happy… we would like them to succeed…As they are seeing us to be happy…the balance has to be maintained.
In the world of parallels there exists another world of truth which we all live yet never wish to own up because there you draw lines without parallels…there you are asymmetry to others . I see the light…and in this world I see the light…
Are you scratching your head that what crap I am talking…it’s a perfect reaction which many would say it loudly…But I wish to hold this little world for me to live where I get wings…where I certainly don’t exist in real but yet the dream are so real…while doing so I do not know how I wish to be judged but even if I am judged they would know that I lived these dreams…the truth is not what we observe…truth is what we feel…truth too has its parallels, Let this not be contested as right or wrong...parallels are complementary too at times...
Now i am going to wrap up my thoughts here and believe me, Even i don't know why i have written these random things here, But one there is one thing i am sure of, That it might be tough to understand but rather easy to read. So happy reading...
Cheers....
Saturday, April 10, 2010
Why To Mingle?????
Hi Friends,
For last so many days, I have been thinking about this “ To be or not to be a Single” thing. Reason is, that about a month back, One of my friends told me that she is falling in love with somebody and since she and her boyfriend have accepted that they are a couple, she has started feeling a bit different. Difference in her mannerism, Behavior, Habits and in almost everything. She also told me that now she does not like to spend time with her family anymore and prefers to get locked up in a room and think about her Boyfriend.
Just to clarify that she is my friend and I do not like to be friends with people who are too younger, especially girls. It was important to mention here because I just wanted to make clear that I am not talking about a teenager.
So I was talking about that change she is going through, along with the detachment from the family, she has also started thinking that the people who used to come to her to wish her morning or evening, are just being too horny.
I am sorry my dear friend, Perhaps I am too "boringly immature" to understand this and it's just an example which I have mentioned here, Because it's not about this friend of mine, But wherever I see, I can see boys and girls are just fascinated to get into a relationship with the opposite sex without ever and even realizing if they really need it.
Sometimes...I wonder what people mean when they say they are single and lonely. I have always believed, being lonely and being alone are two different statements altogether. Though being alone is momentary, loneliness gives you a feeling of solitude for life.
Now, some of my readers might think that because I am “married” and still think this way, then I might be regretting for the time when I got married or for my decision of getting married. But my friends that's not the case and that's not the case with everyone and that's why I think this “I HAVE TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND” theory sucks..
I had a 50 years old neighbor, Who used to sit in the balcony every evening with a peg of whiskey in his hands and used to listen some wonderful old hindi movie songs. One day I tried and find if he is too lonely, But his reply just shook me. He replied “ Beta zindagi nikal gayi hai, agle mahine 51 ka ho jaunga, par ab jaakar kahin kishore kumar ka collection poora hua hai aur in 2 ghanton ke liye main roz 22 ghante wait karta hoon”.
I am not going to make any comment about his statement, Because the way I take this statement, I don't want my readers to take this in the same way, You guys are free to take it in whichever way you want.
On the other hand a single women is a busy professional, juggling career and home, handling her life and loving it the way it is, with the guarantee that there's no place in her life for any other man.
Both the examples make me wonder if the characters are lonely or alone. Is it necessary to plan our whole life with one person or it's just a social responsibility? Can we lead a peaceful and satisfying life all alone just being ourselves and doing things we want to do once we set our mind to it? A time when we stop wandering and settle down just for ourselves or our dreams wrapped in a secure life and comfortable around ourselves. Would that be a selfish or self-centered existence or a freedom to liberty. Living our life to the fullest and wish to make each and every dream come true, and the best of our existence.
I remember how I reacted to that friend of mine(who told me about her lately started love life) I even got offended and told her that I did not like the statement, And no wonder why I reacted like that..
A feeling of single hood not only gives you a sense of freedom but also a peaceful and fulfilled life. Movies, books, music, arts, hobbies, traveling, social work, friends and lots of dreams ~ life has hell lot of variety it seems that might limit itself because of many adjustments and sacrifices done in a relationship.
Is it really necessary to have a partner or companion for life or the emptiness can be filled with a large number of friends and variety of things that leaves no space for one's other half. A single person is free to pick and choose as many individuals as friends or to connect with the whole human species with no boundaries to set in. Sometimes people you share some magical moments with become the most cherished memory of your life, much more important than the one you spent your whole life with.
Just because someone is alone does not mean he is lonely and with so many things to explore in this beautiful life there's no chance to get bored. Rather we can devote our life in helping those in need, those who has nothing. Isn't someone who care and love people but not bound to any one person is much better than the one with a companion but not satisfied and happy with his life?
I'll be waiting for the answers..
Cheers....
For last so many days, I have been thinking about this “ To be or not to be a Single” thing. Reason is, that about a month back, One of my friends told me that she is falling in love with somebody and since she and her boyfriend have accepted that they are a couple, she has started feeling a bit different. Difference in her mannerism, Behavior, Habits and in almost everything. She also told me that now she does not like to spend time with her family anymore and prefers to get locked up in a room and think about her Boyfriend.
Just to clarify that she is my friend and I do not like to be friends with people who are too younger, especially girls. It was important to mention here because I just wanted to make clear that I am not talking about a teenager.
So I was talking about that change she is going through, along with the detachment from the family, she has also started thinking that the people who used to come to her to wish her morning or evening, are just being too horny.
I am sorry my dear friend, Perhaps I am too "boringly immature" to understand this and it's just an example which I have mentioned here, Because it's not about this friend of mine, But wherever I see, I can see boys and girls are just fascinated to get into a relationship with the opposite sex without ever and even realizing if they really need it.
Sometimes...I wonder what people mean when they say they are single and lonely. I have always believed, being lonely and being alone are two different statements altogether. Though being alone is momentary, loneliness gives you a feeling of solitude for life.
Now, some of my readers might think that because I am “married” and still think this way, then I might be regretting for the time when I got married or for my decision of getting married. But my friends that's not the case and that's not the case with everyone and that's why I think this “I HAVE TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND” theory sucks..
I had a 50 years old neighbor, Who used to sit in the balcony every evening with a peg of whiskey in his hands and used to listen some wonderful old hindi movie songs. One day I tried and find if he is too lonely, But his reply just shook me. He replied “ Beta zindagi nikal gayi hai, agle mahine 51 ka ho jaunga, par ab jaakar kahin kishore kumar ka collection poora hua hai aur in 2 ghanton ke liye main roz 22 ghante wait karta hoon”.
I am not going to make any comment about his statement, Because the way I take this statement, I don't want my readers to take this in the same way, You guys are free to take it in whichever way you want.
On the other hand a single women is a busy professional, juggling career and home, handling her life and loving it the way it is, with the guarantee that there's no place in her life for any other man.
Both the examples make me wonder if the characters are lonely or alone. Is it necessary to plan our whole life with one person or it's just a social responsibility? Can we lead a peaceful and satisfying life all alone just being ourselves and doing things we want to do once we set our mind to it? A time when we stop wandering and settle down just for ourselves or our dreams wrapped in a secure life and comfortable around ourselves. Would that be a selfish or self-centered existence or a freedom to liberty. Living our life to the fullest and wish to make each and every dream come true, and the best of our existence.
I remember how I reacted to that friend of mine(who told me about her lately started love life) I even got offended and told her that I did not like the statement, And no wonder why I reacted like that..
A feeling of single hood not only gives you a sense of freedom but also a peaceful and fulfilled life. Movies, books, music, arts, hobbies, traveling, social work, friends and lots of dreams ~ life has hell lot of variety it seems that might limit itself because of many adjustments and sacrifices done in a relationship.
Is it really necessary to have a partner or companion for life or the emptiness can be filled with a large number of friends and variety of things that leaves no space for one's other half. A single person is free to pick and choose as many individuals as friends or to connect with the whole human species with no boundaries to set in. Sometimes people you share some magical moments with become the most cherished memory of your life, much more important than the one you spent your whole life with.
Just because someone is alone does not mean he is lonely and with so many things to explore in this beautiful life there's no chance to get bored. Rather we can devote our life in helping those in need, those who has nothing. Isn't someone who care and love people but not bound to any one person is much better than the one with a companion but not satisfied and happy with his life?
I'll be waiting for the answers..
Cheers....
Friday, April 2, 2010
It's not 15th aug or 26th jan, but still.....
I did not write anything today, Infact i was just waiting for my watch to show 17:00 Hrs and i leave. However just to pass last one hour, I started reading Times of India e-paper for 1st and 2nd april and on the 1st april's issue, I looked at a column about Ajmal Kasaab and his Judgement day which has been declaired will be on 1st of May 2010.Along with that this article also had details regarding the ongoing trial of this terrorist and how indian government spent "33 CRORES" for his trial, case, security, wellbeing and survival.
As we all know that in india, there are millions of people who don't get 5 Lakh (like me) in an year even after rubbing our respectve a**es non stop. Along with the countless number of people, Who sleep on footpath and whenever they get food for two times, it becomes a reason for them to celebrate.
If any responsible person gets this 33,0000000 INR amout, we can easily give 300-500 people a good present and secured future. Well, I think it's really a hypothetical idea.
If we talk about the reality of the indian middle class, Who travel in metros, Buses, Autos and trains, We are the easiest or we can say "the softest targets" for any anti-national activity or terrorism. It's quite easy for anybody like Mr. Kasaab to come, shoot, confess, survive and still hope that he will get an escape.
As we say that we are a "democratic country" and we respect our enemies as well. It's not just Mr. Kasaab on whom we have spent 33,0000000 INR, if we talk about the cases which are undergoing and terrorists and suspets who are we feeding, perhaps we'll have to add thousands of 0s infront of 33.
What are we trying to prove, Who are we trying to prove and last but not the least, What are we waiting for??????
It's nothing like we are'nt doing anything. Few days back Mr. Modi was interrogated for the "Godhra" case and news channel even proclaimed that "Modi" might be the first politician in the history of Indian to undergo such trial. Again the question comes, Was their only Muslims who lost their lives?? before i write anything else, I would like to make clear that I don't favour any of the "SENAs" or "DALs" and have nothing against Islam as well. But aren't we being to "sacularly scared"of the real terror elements?? why don't out politicians take any actions against quite
obvious suspects and just think about the minority vote banks.
People in India don't like and understand the any movies like "My name is Khan", Because they don't know how US is reassuring the they don't have to mourn on another "ground zero" to remember the terrible experience of 09/11.
When are we going to make our immigration law tougher and execute it???
As long as we follow a policy of appeasement, we will never be able to tackle terrorism and we might have to live in constant fear and anxiety. Several cowardly attacks on ’soft targets’ have killed the innocent common man. In the interest of the nation, all communities, caste, creed, class, must be banned immediately.
Henceforth, all those who live in India must be called Indians. Any Indian can privately practice his/her own chosen religion. The Indian-ness must be emphasized .No one must be known as a Tamilian, Andhraite, Maharashtrian, etc……Only identity recognised must be -Indian.
Fearless action must be taken against anyone spreading anti-Indian feelings through their places of worship, schools,etc. The Nation comes first and then all other communities.
Someone has made fun of our Indian policy called ‘Athithi Devo Bhava’. It is carried to the extreme by our Government, As i compared our immigration and securities breatches which few other coutries and here is what i got:::
It goes like this:
If You Cross The North Korean Border Illegally,You Get 12 Years Hard Labour.
If You Cross The Iranian Border Illegally,You Are Detained Indefinitely.
If You Cross The Afghan Border,You Get Shot.
If You Cross The Saudi Arabian Border,You Get Jailed.
If You Cross The Chinese Border Illegally, You May Never be Heard Again.
If You Cross The Venezuelan Border Illegally, You Will Be Branded A Spy And Dealt
Accordingly.
If You Enter Britian Illegally, You Will Be Arrested, Prosecuted, And Imprisoned and then Deported.
BUT IF YOU CROSS THE INDIAN BORDER ILLEGALLY, YOU GET……..
A Ration Card
Voter Identification
Passport(1 or more)
Haj Subsidy
Job
A Driver’s License
Job Reservation
Special Privileges
Credit Cards
Subsidised Rent or Loan To Buy A House
Free Education
Free Health Care
Atleast 10 NGOs or any relegious parties to shout with.
How can you expect to contain terrorism ? The common man who calls himself an Indian, must learn to live on his own . Also, we must protect ourselves and not expect the Government to provide any security since it is busy with its own policy of appeasement to get votes, while the people get the blasts. This is what we need and to get this done we have to take actions as we have already spoken enough about all theses matters and even Shaheed Bhagat Singh said
after throwing bombs in british assembly " Deafs hear only blasts".
These lines are still applicable as earlier we fought against british and now the same fight is required against our own politicians and system...
Let's do it....
As we all know that in india, there are millions of people who don't get 5 Lakh (like me) in an year even after rubbing our respectve a**es non stop. Along with the countless number of people, Who sleep on footpath and whenever they get food for two times, it becomes a reason for them to celebrate.
If any responsible person gets this 33,0000000 INR amout, we can easily give 300-500 people a good present and secured future. Well, I think it's really a hypothetical idea.
If we talk about the reality of the indian middle class, Who travel in metros, Buses, Autos and trains, We are the easiest or we can say "the softest targets" for any anti-national activity or terrorism. It's quite easy for anybody like Mr. Kasaab to come, shoot, confess, survive and still hope that he will get an escape.
As we say that we are a "democratic country" and we respect our enemies as well. It's not just Mr. Kasaab on whom we have spent 33,0000000 INR, if we talk about the cases which are undergoing and terrorists and suspets who are we feeding, perhaps we'll have to add thousands of 0s infront of 33.
What are we trying to prove, Who are we trying to prove and last but not the least, What are we waiting for??????
It's nothing like we are'nt doing anything. Few days back Mr. Modi was interrogated for the "Godhra" case and news channel even proclaimed that "Modi" might be the first politician in the history of Indian to undergo such trial. Again the question comes, Was their only Muslims who lost their lives?? before i write anything else, I would like to make clear that I don't favour any of the "SENAs" or "DALs" and have nothing against Islam as well. But aren't we being to "sacularly scared"of the real terror elements?? why don't out politicians take any actions against quite
obvious suspects and just think about the minority vote banks.
People in India don't like and understand the any movies like "My name is Khan", Because they don't know how US is reassuring the they don't have to mourn on another "ground zero" to remember the terrible experience of 09/11.
When are we going to make our immigration law tougher and execute it???
As long as we follow a policy of appeasement, we will never be able to tackle terrorism and we might have to live in constant fear and anxiety. Several cowardly attacks on ’soft targets’ have killed the innocent common man. In the interest of the nation, all communities, caste, creed, class, must be banned immediately.
Henceforth, all those who live in India must be called Indians. Any Indian can privately practice his/her own chosen religion. The Indian-ness must be emphasized .No one must be known as a Tamilian, Andhraite, Maharashtrian, etc……Only identity recognised must be -Indian.
Fearless action must be taken against anyone spreading anti-Indian feelings through their places of worship, schools,etc. The Nation comes first and then all other communities.
Someone has made fun of our Indian policy called ‘Athithi Devo Bhava’. It is carried to the extreme by our Government, As i compared our immigration and securities breatches which few other coutries and here is what i got:::
It goes like this:
If You Cross The North Korean Border Illegally,You Get 12 Years Hard Labour.
If You Cross The Iranian Border Illegally,You Are Detained Indefinitely.
If You Cross The Afghan Border,You Get Shot.
If You Cross The Saudi Arabian Border,You Get Jailed.
If You Cross The Chinese Border Illegally, You May Never be Heard Again.
If You Cross The Venezuelan Border Illegally, You Will Be Branded A Spy And Dealt
Accordingly.
If You Enter Britian Illegally, You Will Be Arrested, Prosecuted, And Imprisoned and then Deported.
BUT IF YOU CROSS THE INDIAN BORDER ILLEGALLY, YOU GET……..
A Ration Card
Voter Identification
Passport(1 or more)
Haj Subsidy
Job
A Driver’s License
Job Reservation
Special Privileges
Credit Cards
Subsidised Rent or Loan To Buy A House
Free Education
Free Health Care
Atleast 10 NGOs or any relegious parties to shout with.
How can you expect to contain terrorism ? The common man who calls himself an Indian, must learn to live on his own . Also, we must protect ourselves and not expect the Government to provide any security since it is busy with its own policy of appeasement to get votes, while the people get the blasts. This is what we need and to get this done we have to take actions as we have already spoken enough about all theses matters and even Shaheed Bhagat Singh said
after throwing bombs in british assembly " Deafs hear only blasts".
These lines are still applicable as earlier we fought against british and now the same fight is required against our own politicians and system...
Let's do it....
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
I am Happy, Am I ?????
Hi friends,
Back to work after 2 days of my weekly offs, But believe me, Thursday is not a good day to begin the week. When everybody looks happy that they have survived 4 working days and just one day to go for the weekend, I come to start my week and work on the days when "normal" people don't work.
However this morning when i came in and checked my last post about the "renovation" at my place, I thought is it the furniture which needs to be rearranged in order to live comfortably or do we need to rearrange our life to live "happily" ????? but before we could get this answer, We need to understand different aspects of "being happy" or in the broader sense, Perhaps first we need to understand the "happiness" itself. So i did search and then researched the facts and this is the outcome which i have reached to.
"Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not, does not depend on how the furniture is arranged. It is how I should arrange my mind.” .
I came across the above quote while doing the above said research and got to thinking about ‘happiness’. It is a kind of secular nirvana of our human experience and one desire that we all share. The Buddhists say that our desire to be happy is one of the main things that connects all sentient beings. We all want to be happy and none of us wants to suffer. Happiness in modern media is also a product such as soap, that is fastened to products like big red bows to stimulate us to want them and buy them.
The trouble we humans run into with happiness is that we think it is something that we have to make happen through our work, our money, our religions, our fantasies and our relationships. If we do ‘this‘ then we will be happy. This ‘this‘ depends on who we are asking but the equation is always the same. The truth is that happiness isn’t a state to be attained, nor is it a place in our lives that we arrive at. Money, thinness (as per few recent studies on urban women), celebrity, you name it, all have been touted as the path to happiness. None of them are. They can each make life easier and more fun, but none of them can guarantee happiness. All you have to do is glance through a celebrity magazine to see the sad reality of that.
The truth is that happy is something that you decide to be. It is the product of our perceptions and our perceptions are driven by our beliefs about ourselves and the world. These beliefs are formed early in life and reinforced by the world as we learn and grow because we never challenge them. We merely strain to see out of the same glasses we were given as children and never think to get a new pair. If we are lucky those glasses get dashed along the way by some life shaking experience and we end up seeking a new pair through counseling, spirituality, or other paths of inner exploration. Emerging later with a pair of glasses of our own, we can then make new decisions that lead with the belief that happiness is where we start, not where we are going. As the old saying goes, ‘happy is as happy does.’ however that's not the actual thing we go through, But instead of that, We fool ourself by considering the "path" as "destination" and because of the "momentory" or "volatile" happiness, We never think of the "constant" and "ultimate" happiness which is the destination of life and end up getting ourselves "looped" in this jouney to happiness and never reach the destination of true happiness.
Here are few Tips for ‘arranging your mind’ or 'rearranging your mind' towards happiness:
1. Take responsibility for everything in your life right now. This includes body, money, relationships, health, state of mind, work, all of it. This is very important because vicitms refuse to be happy no matter how hard they try or how much they have.
2. Decide that the power to be happy is in you, is something that you own, doesn't lie outside of you and isn’t someone else's to grant you. Very little, if any of how we feel, happy or not, has anything to do with anything outside of ourselves. Yet most of the time we look to someone or something else to fix us, or give us something that we can use to feel better.
3. Stop focusing on what you don't have or what you don't want. Most of the world decides on what they want to have, do and/or feel whether more money, a better job, less weight (or more weight in my case), healing from an illness, and then they focus on its opposite. Someone who wants more money thinks and complains about being in debt. Someone who wants to lose weight or gain weight thinks and complains about being fat. And so it goes. Our brains only know what we tell them and they are very compliant. If you want to be a fat person, complain about not being able to stick to a diet and your brain will help you out. Taking what you believe as real, it will produce the depressive neurochemistry to support the feeling of ‘I can’t’ and’ what’s the point’, and you won't be able to make the changes necessary to have the physical body you say you want to have.
4. Happiness is not a goal but a moment to moment experience that comes from a decision to feel good. This creates an intention that will inform your choices and help you always go in the direction of what you want, what feels good to your body, mind and spirit, and what will create that feeling of happiness and joy, in every moment. However as i have mentioned earlier no matter how good your journey is, it can not be better than the destination and this is applicable only if your journey has a destination. Because most of us don't really identify our destination and even if we do, We hardly make any honest efforts to get there.
5. Understand that we are meant to be happy. Life is supposed to be fun, or, what's the point since no one is getting out alive. Lighten up, laugh at yourself, risk making a bad decision or seeming silly. None of us are really that powerful or important in the grand scheme of things. Isn't that a relief?
and finally,
The key to happiness lies in that moment of connection with ones experience: if you can't meet yourself where you are, then, you will never truly 'be' happy anywhere else...
Cheers.....
Back to work after 2 days of my weekly offs, But believe me, Thursday is not a good day to begin the week. When everybody looks happy that they have survived 4 working days and just one day to go for the weekend, I come to start my week and work on the days when "normal" people don't work.
However this morning when i came in and checked my last post about the "renovation" at my place, I thought is it the furniture which needs to be rearranged in order to live comfortably or do we need to rearrange our life to live "happily" ????? but before we could get this answer, We need to understand different aspects of "being happy" or in the broader sense, Perhaps first we need to understand the "happiness" itself. So i did search and then researched the facts and this is the outcome which i have reached to.
"Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not, does not depend on how the furniture is arranged. It is how I should arrange my mind.” .
I came across the above quote while doing the above said research and got to thinking about ‘happiness’. It is a kind of secular nirvana of our human experience and one desire that we all share. The Buddhists say that our desire to be happy is one of the main things that connects all sentient beings. We all want to be happy and none of us wants to suffer. Happiness in modern media is also a product such as soap, that is fastened to products like big red bows to stimulate us to want them and buy them.
The trouble we humans run into with happiness is that we think it is something that we have to make happen through our work, our money, our religions, our fantasies and our relationships. If we do ‘this‘ then we will be happy. This ‘this‘ depends on who we are asking but the equation is always the same. The truth is that happiness isn’t a state to be attained, nor is it a place in our lives that we arrive at. Money, thinness (as per few recent studies on urban women), celebrity, you name it, all have been touted as the path to happiness. None of them are. They can each make life easier and more fun, but none of them can guarantee happiness. All you have to do is glance through a celebrity magazine to see the sad reality of that.
The truth is that happy is something that you decide to be. It is the product of our perceptions and our perceptions are driven by our beliefs about ourselves and the world. These beliefs are formed early in life and reinforced by the world as we learn and grow because we never challenge them. We merely strain to see out of the same glasses we were given as children and never think to get a new pair. If we are lucky those glasses get dashed along the way by some life shaking experience and we end up seeking a new pair through counseling, spirituality, or other paths of inner exploration. Emerging later with a pair of glasses of our own, we can then make new decisions that lead with the belief that happiness is where we start, not where we are going. As the old saying goes, ‘happy is as happy does.’ however that's not the actual thing we go through, But instead of that, We fool ourself by considering the "path" as "destination" and because of the "momentory" or "volatile" happiness, We never think of the "constant" and "ultimate" happiness which is the destination of life and end up getting ourselves "looped" in this jouney to happiness and never reach the destination of true happiness.
Here are few Tips for ‘arranging your mind’ or 'rearranging your mind' towards happiness:
1. Take responsibility for everything in your life right now. This includes body, money, relationships, health, state of mind, work, all of it. This is very important because vicitms refuse to be happy no matter how hard they try or how much they have.
2. Decide that the power to be happy is in you, is something that you own, doesn't lie outside of you and isn’t someone else's to grant you. Very little, if any of how we feel, happy or not, has anything to do with anything outside of ourselves. Yet most of the time we look to someone or something else to fix us, or give us something that we can use to feel better.
3. Stop focusing on what you don't have or what you don't want. Most of the world decides on what they want to have, do and/or feel whether more money, a better job, less weight (or more weight in my case), healing from an illness, and then they focus on its opposite. Someone who wants more money thinks and complains about being in debt. Someone who wants to lose weight or gain weight thinks and complains about being fat. And so it goes. Our brains only know what we tell them and they are very compliant. If you want to be a fat person, complain about not being able to stick to a diet and your brain will help you out. Taking what you believe as real, it will produce the depressive neurochemistry to support the feeling of ‘I can’t’ and’ what’s the point’, and you won't be able to make the changes necessary to have the physical body you say you want to have.
4. Happiness is not a goal but a moment to moment experience that comes from a decision to feel good. This creates an intention that will inform your choices and help you always go in the direction of what you want, what feels good to your body, mind and spirit, and what will create that feeling of happiness and joy, in every moment. However as i have mentioned earlier no matter how good your journey is, it can not be better than the destination and this is applicable only if your journey has a destination. Because most of us don't really identify our destination and even if we do, We hardly make any honest efforts to get there.
5. Understand that we are meant to be happy. Life is supposed to be fun, or, what's the point since no one is getting out alive. Lighten up, laugh at yourself, risk making a bad decision or seeming silly. None of us are really that powerful or important in the grand scheme of things. Isn't that a relief?
and finally,
The key to happiness lies in that moment of connection with ones experience: if you can't meet yourself where you are, then, you will never truly 'be' happy anywhere else...
Cheers.....
Sunday, March 28, 2010
I am sick and tired of it..............
It's been more than a week since I've written something and it's not because of time, but because the week was "an awesome non happening week". Watched so many movies, Did nothing unusual, Went through a nightmare called "jack Daniel"( as i paid 1400 bucks for just 3 pegs of it), Fought with the family to get some excitement and last but not the least a fu***ng “renovation” at my place which drove me nuts. I just don't understand why do we clean our house, especially when we know that the furnitures are not going to shine forever, neither every corner of my bathroom will always reflect my sparkling teeth. So why do we spend, rather waste so much of time and money on a "bloody renovation".
The other day i was at home as accidentally i got a leave and believe me, It was one of the most horrible time I've ever spent at my place (one of the most horrible because i am MARRIED, So i never run out of horrible moments in my life). I woke up at around 10 in the morning and after that i was just sitting on a bean bag for about 8 hrs because there was no other place in the house to sit (that excludes the place where we sit to sh*t) and i had to adjust myself on this poor bag, thankfully my "better half or bitter half " was kind enough to let me watch the TV and most important, All the channels which i usually don't get to see, So i watched couple of movies and IPL as well. But believe me, In spite of the IPL match and some movies which i got to watch, i will still remain stuck to my opinion that "renovation sucks".
Normally, mind it, "normally" my house is clean and looks nice and is a really nice place to live as well, However since "The change is the most constant thing" in the world, So the setup of my house keeps on changing. Sometimes when we go out of town, When there are too many guests are coming , Because of navratri and approx one week of every month because of routine cleaning sessions. So most of the times you fill find that the center table has got an extreme corner of the drawing room for itself and the bean bags sit on top of it , TV has started feeling quite comfortable on the bed and the carpet happily sleeps on the couch. And now when i have become so familiar with this setup, I feel really uncomfortable when it comes to sit on couch or to sleep on the bed. Now i don't like watching my face in the mirror any more and i love brushing up my teeth in the kitchen sink with looking at my reflections on frying pan, kadhai, bowls etc.
In this post, now onwards whenever I'll have to say worst, I'll use "best" and other words just opposite to what i feel. Because as i had mentioned in a post of mine about a month back, there are so many things in life which we can not control, so instead of cribbing about it, we should face it with a smile :-) and take it in a positive manner (in my life, anything and everything which is related to me, my wife, my home, my clothes, my habits, my married life etc. falls under this category).
The other day i was at home as accidentally i got a leave and believe me, It was one of the most horrible time I've ever spent at my place (one of the most horrible because i am MARRIED, So i never run out of horrible moments in my life). I woke up at around 10 in the morning and after that i was just sitting on a bean bag for about 8 hrs because there was no other place in the house to sit (that excludes the place where we sit to sh*t) and i had to adjust myself on this poor bag, thankfully my "better half or bitter half " was kind enough to let me watch the TV and most important, All the channels which i usually don't get to see, So i watched couple of movies and IPL as well. But believe me, In spite of the IPL match and some movies which i got to watch, i will still remain stuck to my opinion that "renovation sucks".
Normally, mind it, "normally" my house is clean and looks nice and is a really nice place to live as well, However since "The change is the most constant thing" in the world, So the setup of my house keeps on changing. Sometimes when we go out of town, When there are too many guests are coming , Because of navratri and approx one week of every month because of routine cleaning sessions. So most of the times you fill find that the center table has got an extreme corner of the drawing room for itself and the bean bags sit on top of it , TV has started feeling quite comfortable on the bed and the carpet happily sleeps on the couch. And now when i have become so familiar with this setup, I feel really uncomfortable when it comes to sit on couch or to sleep on the bed. Now i don't like watching my face in the mirror any more and i love brushing up my teeth in the kitchen sink with looking at my reflections on frying pan, kadhai, bowls etc.
In this post, now onwards whenever I'll have to say worst, I'll use "best" and other words just opposite to what i feel. Because as i had mentioned in a post of mine about a month back, there are so many things in life which we can not control, so instead of cribbing about it, we should face it with a smile :-) and take it in a positive manner (in my life, anything and everything which is related to me, my wife, my home, my clothes, my habits, my married life etc. falls under this category).
So i was talking about the "normal" setup of my house. So as i was sitting on the bag and was watching some movies, the boy who was painting the walls of my bedroom was having a very nice and light time there and in spite of me giving him really tough looks and my body structure, He kept calling me "uncle ji". Which was not a bit less than the icing on the cake. Thankfully i had one of my really good friends, Abhishek with me , Because of whom i was not feeling that bad and my spontaneous feelings toward the renovation were forbidden (for people who could not understand this statement, because my friend was there, So i could not scream and oppose this "ATYAACHAAR" and i had to play an obedient, caring and a responsible husband).
This renovation here, Which I am talking about, Is going on for last 2-3 days. Everyday when I am entering the house in the evening, I get to see a new angle of my lifestyle which even I am not aware of. Everyday I come in, and look for a place to sit and remove my shoes, then I look for the freaking mobile charger, some place to keep my wallet and finally a corner to change my clothes. Then I get the order to connect the TV with the Set Top Box because I am quite good when it comes to fiddle around with wires and all. After spending couple of hours in different corners of my house, I get my dinner either on the floor, on my lap or somewhere else.
I am keeping it quite short this time as i have got my concentration somewhere else these day but i'll surely come up with something better next time andI am full of hope (like past four days) that today when I' ll enter my house, I might get to see some “good changes”.
So Guys, Girls and Gays....
Please pray for me.
Cheers...
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
U, A or U/A.....
We are changed now and changed alot. In terms of our habits, priorities, liking, fashion, lifestyle and almost everything. Somehow we have started accepting the most rejected things and vice versa, This thought came into my mind when few days back i was just sitting in my cab and was listening to FM, suddenly the RJ roarded that she is going to play the title track of an upcoming movie, "Love Sex aur Dhokha". Then the song started with this title "Love Sex Aur Dhokha" numerous times in it. I liked the song even when the lyrics of this song don't make any bloody sense but the voice of Kailash Kher and some foot tapping beat was good enough to make me download this song on my phone.
Let's go 15-20 years back, There was a Govinda movie released and i am still not sure if it was "Dulaara" or "Laadla" with Karishma Kapoor. There was a song in the movie "sexy-sexy-sexy mujhe log bolein" and that time i did not know what does sexy mean and that's why i was not at all bothered about where and when i should sing or humm this song and in result, I got scolded so may times by my dad, teachers and other elders, that time we had only one T.V. channel " Doordarshan" and this song used to get aired multiple times on TV and on "Vividh Bharti (the first radio station playing music)".
However this song was on for few weeks and after that one day when i heard the song, "sexy-sexy-sexy" was replaced by "baby-baby-baby" and i also saw the expession of relief on my dad's face. After few years, I came to know what sexy means and by that time, We had started using this word quite frequently. I guess in the same or few years later or earlier the famous song from the movie "Khalnaayak", "choli ke pichhe kya hai" came into existance and again my father started asking me to fetch some water everytime it aired on TV. However it was not as tricky as "sexy" for me,and as soon as Ila Arun used to ask "Choli ke pichhe kya hai?? ", Alka Yagnik used to "LIE" " Choli mein dil hai mera". However nothing changed in this songs as the writer
tookcare of everything in this song and inspite of a controversial question asked in this song, He did not put accross the right or the exact answer.
I still remember, that Doordarshan used to broadcast some english movies after 11 PM on sundays as well as some english TV shows, and at that time, there was no censorship on those movies and shows and also i was fortunate enough to watch "Kamasutra's" uncut version and few foreign shows with babes showing their "assets".
But things have changed now, if you notice , whenever there is a movie is being aired on a TV channel, especially a hindi movie channel, you hardly get to watch any intimate scene or any voilent sequence. The Hero raises his gun to shoot and in the next scene you see that the villain is dead and you don't get to know if the hero has shot the villian once, twice or thrice. So the much awaited censorship has finally arrived but in an overcaring or you can say an orthodox manner. But this same censorship goes for a toss when it comes to TV shows and now days our own sweet idiot box has been flooded with so many "reality shows".From dating to engagement, enagement to courtship, courtship to marriage and marriage to divorce and at times about how to become a good parent or how to become a good son or daughter.There are about 1-2 reality shows being aired on every popular channel and we get to see and hear so may beeps and blurred images even before 11 PM (as this is a criteria set by the I&B ministory since early 90s).
I am not going to talk about any of these shows as most of my readers have raised this concern that anuj does'nt miss any of the TV shows and this post is more about this change which has taken place, Instead of the content of these shows.
The question which made my right this is still there, do we really need a censor board or censorship??????
Naturally, it falls upon government bureaucrats to decide what should be there and the problem is that India has long had a climate where it’s considered perfectly acceptable for the state to meddle in what its citizens can watch, and listen to. I googled about it and found a really nice fact that In 1968, for instance, “abbreviated skirts” and scenes “suggestive of soliciting” were enough to send “A Tale of Four Cities,” a documentary by KA Abbas partly set in Mumbai’s red-light districts, all the way to the Supreme Court. India’s top judicial body duly upheld its ban , setting a precedent for censorship that is still cited today. It ruled that films had to be scrutinized more carefully than other media because “a person reading a book or other writing (or)hearing a speech or viewing a painting or sculpture is not so deeply stirred as by seeing a motion picture.” In the view of the court, thus, Indians were like putty in the hands of these powerful media, incapable of making their own decisions or using their own discretion.
But, in recent years, things have begun to change. The economic growth triggered by India’s opening up has created a much larger middle class. And the intellectual influences that have poured in from elsewhere in the world have made this middle class more alive to the need to fight for freedom of expression.
Such voices are still few, and these actions not yet loud enough to counter the regressive forces that routinely stifle freedom of expression in India. But they are growing, and offer hope for India’s future.
And the conclusion which i got to after a bit of research and reviews is that there can't be a fixed policy or law about it as we have changed and changing like anything, so the policy and procedures also needed to be changed and it should be a viewer who decides, what he or she wants to see and listen and not a bunch of few old people who have seen changes only in their files and hair colour.
This is what i had , however you all are always welcome to come with your inputs..
Cheers....
Let's go 15-20 years back, There was a Govinda movie released and i am still not sure if it was "Dulaara" or "Laadla" with Karishma Kapoor. There was a song in the movie "sexy-sexy-sexy mujhe log bolein" and that time i did not know what does sexy mean and that's why i was not at all bothered about where and when i should sing or humm this song and in result, I got scolded so may times by my dad, teachers and other elders, that time we had only one T.V. channel " Doordarshan" and this song used to get aired multiple times on TV and on "Vividh Bharti (the first radio station playing music)".
However this song was on for few weeks and after that one day when i heard the song, "sexy-sexy-sexy" was replaced by "baby-baby-baby" and i also saw the expession of relief on my dad's face. After few years, I came to know what sexy means and by that time, We had started using this word quite frequently. I guess in the same or few years later or earlier the famous song from the movie "Khalnaayak", "choli ke pichhe kya hai" came into existance and again my father started asking me to fetch some water everytime it aired on TV. However it was not as tricky as "sexy" for me,and as soon as Ila Arun used to ask "Choli ke pichhe kya hai?? ", Alka Yagnik used to "LIE" " Choli mein dil hai mera". However nothing changed in this songs as the writer
tookcare of everything in this song and inspite of a controversial question asked in this song, He did not put accross the right or the exact answer.
I still remember, that Doordarshan used to broadcast some english movies after 11 PM on sundays as well as some english TV shows, and at that time, there was no censorship on those movies and shows and also i was fortunate enough to watch "Kamasutra's" uncut version and few foreign shows with babes showing their "assets".
But things have changed now, if you notice , whenever there is a movie is being aired on a TV channel, especially a hindi movie channel, you hardly get to watch any intimate scene or any voilent sequence. The Hero raises his gun to shoot and in the next scene you see that the villain is dead and you don't get to know if the hero has shot the villian once, twice or thrice. So the much awaited censorship has finally arrived but in an overcaring or you can say an orthodox manner. But this same censorship goes for a toss when it comes to TV shows and now days our own sweet idiot box has been flooded with so many "reality shows".From dating to engagement, enagement to courtship, courtship to marriage and marriage to divorce and at times about how to become a good parent or how to become a good son or daughter.There are about 1-2 reality shows being aired on every popular channel and we get to see and hear so may beeps and blurred images even before 11 PM (as this is a criteria set by the I&B ministory since early 90s).
I am not going to talk about any of these shows as most of my readers have raised this concern that anuj does'nt miss any of the TV shows and this post is more about this change which has taken place, Instead of the content of these shows.
The question which made my right this is still there, do we really need a censor board or censorship??????
Naturally, it falls upon government bureaucrats to decide what should be there and the problem is that India has long had a climate where it’s considered perfectly acceptable for the state to meddle in what its citizens can watch, and listen to. I googled about it and found a really nice fact that In 1968, for instance, “abbreviated skirts” and scenes “suggestive of soliciting” were enough to send “A Tale of Four Cities,” a documentary by KA Abbas partly set in Mumbai’s red-light districts, all the way to the Supreme Court. India’s top judicial body duly upheld its ban , setting a precedent for censorship that is still cited today. It ruled that films had to be scrutinized more carefully than other media because “a person reading a book or other writing (or)hearing a speech or viewing a painting or sculpture is not so deeply stirred as by seeing a motion picture.” In the view of the court, thus, Indians were like putty in the hands of these powerful media, incapable of making their own decisions or using their own discretion.
But, in recent years, things have begun to change. The economic growth triggered by India’s opening up has created a much larger middle class. And the intellectual influences that have poured in from elsewhere in the world have made this middle class more alive to the need to fight for freedom of expression.
Such voices are still few, and these actions not yet loud enough to counter the regressive forces that routinely stifle freedom of expression in India. But they are growing, and offer hope for India’s future.
And the conclusion which i got to after a bit of research and reviews is that there can't be a fixed policy or law about it as we have changed and changing like anything, so the policy and procedures also needed to be changed and it should be a viewer who decides, what he or she wants to see and listen and not a bunch of few old people who have seen changes only in their files and hair colour.
This is what i had , however you all are always welcome to come with your inputs..
Cheers....
Monday, March 15, 2010
Women On Top...........
Today, I thought i would pen down my thoughts about "how to manipulate a man", However after about one and half hour of brainstorming, i got only one answer, which is a universal truth, least controversial, highly acclaimed and broadly accepted and that answer is "just give him s*x". That's when i decided to write "how to manipulate a women".
I know it will be difficult task. I might fail to deliver (expected, isn’t it? On which planet do men deliver?)…please bear with me. After all,the first question ‘what women want’ still remains unanswered.
A Women needs security. She has two issues to sort before she is even willing to let you get close enough so you can attempt a manipulation.
1) Is she feeling safe with you?
2) Is she feeling safe from the World when she is with you?
Remember, this is why a woman never falls in love at first sight. coz One doesn’t get to know the bank balance at first sight.
If your answer to the above two questions is ‘Yes’ you are my star and you have every
right to continue reading this article. Other men may pick up the latest PlayBoy and head to their favorite corner.
What politicians are to the citizens of a democracy, men are to the women. We never vote for the best politician (for there aren’t any) …we always end up voting for the least corrupt. Similarly, women are forced to choose the one who is the least likely to mess up their lives – which is anyway going around and around in cycles. It is this need for security and the ability to compromise, that makes a woman prefer the guy who offered to pay the bill, though he took her to a cheap restaurant. Never walk into the restaurant and say magnanimously: “We will go Dutch…but I will take care of the tip myself.” This just might tip the scales in favour of the guy she had been keeping aside as Plan B.
But taking her to a restaurant and paying the bill might NOT make her trust you. She might start thinking, “This guy takes me to a restaurant, and pays for my dinner. Something is definitely fishy.” and she would make sure that she meets you "only in a restaurant" and your dream about "kamre ka judaag ho gaya" will be shattered.
If she wasn’t already on guard with you, this act of yours will put her on guard. You might not be able to read her mind, but she can read 100s of intentions & combinations into your single smile.
Mind you, women are always on guard …which helps them in their search for ‘security’. It is as if they see these women cell boards like, call 1091, naarion awaz uthao etc. In a way, we men have made the women such experts in sensing the dangers nearby.
Not wanting to be left behind,even the Indian Navy has decided to give up its gender bias and plans to use a woman’s seventh sense…there will be a woman in every sea-going submarine.
This woman will have to look out for dangers under the sea. Navy has SONAR etc….but
apparently they aren’t as effective. The bill hasn’t been passed in the Parliament
yet…our MPs are debating over the Indian Navy’s suggestion that the woman be tied to
the nose of the submarine.
Anyway once you have won over her confidence (if you ever can)…and made her feel safe with you and from the World, when she is with you…she is "ready to be manipulated".
My dear men (women, you still reading?)…there are two things you need to know about a
woman:
1) Women have the inherent need to know everything (who, what, why, when, whome, whose, and really???????????????)
2) Women love to be flattered. (who does'nt and it shows that they are normal)
Women have this inner need to know everything about the man they are interested in or
have ended up marrying. Talk to her…not just about cricket scores or the latest
youtube video you saw on the net. Talk to her about what you did in office, what you
eat for lunch, what you spoke of when you met your colleagues in the loo, what you
were thinking while driving your car back from office, what her mother in law thinks
of her, what her sister in law said about her…just about every possible thing on the planet, except any other love rather lust interest of yours.
On the Flattery front, here are a few stock sentences that you can use to flatter her
and once she is flattered, you can manipulate the hell out of her. Remember, you are
dealing with a person with a seventh sense for security…so be careful.
1) Are you dieting? Or is it the gym? You are definitely losing weight
2) Where did you get that skirt? Goes really well with those shoes.
3) Did you do something to your hair today? I am seeing something extra.
4) I was walking just behind you…and guess what, when you walked past that bus
stop…all the men fainted.
5) You have such nice skin, i always feel like touchin you.
There are certain things you should never tell a woman. Even if it sounds ok to you,
as a man. Sentences like:
1) If I were only half as good looking as you are…I would be my company’s CEO.
2) You have such nice skin. Wish I had that too….damn these rashes!
3) Where did you get that skirt? Would love to see them crushed on the floor.
4) What deo do you use? I was walking just behind you and when you walked past that
bus stop…all the men fainted.
5) Did you do something to your hair today? I am an extra dosage on your shirt today.
While you try these out on the women in your lives, let me do the same. With some
luck, I just might succeed.
And one more thing before i take your leave, there should be "no women on top" and only "the man should be on top" as it just sounds erotic, but in real life.....it sucks...
cheers........
I know it will be difficult task. I might fail to deliver (expected, isn’t it? On which planet do men deliver?)…please bear with me. After all,the first question ‘what women want’ still remains unanswered.
A Women needs security. She has two issues to sort before she is even willing to let you get close enough so you can attempt a manipulation.
1) Is she feeling safe with you?
2) Is she feeling safe from the World when she is with you?
Remember, this is why a woman never falls in love at first sight. coz One doesn’t get to know the bank balance at first sight.
If your answer to the above two questions is ‘Yes’ you are my star and you have every
right to continue reading this article. Other men may pick up the latest PlayBoy and head to their favorite corner.
What politicians are to the citizens of a democracy, men are to the women. We never vote for the best politician (for there aren’t any) …we always end up voting for the least corrupt. Similarly, women are forced to choose the one who is the least likely to mess up their lives – which is anyway going around and around in cycles. It is this need for security and the ability to compromise, that makes a woman prefer the guy who offered to pay the bill, though he took her to a cheap restaurant. Never walk into the restaurant and say magnanimously: “We will go Dutch…but I will take care of the tip myself.” This just might tip the scales in favour of the guy she had been keeping aside as Plan B.
But taking her to a restaurant and paying the bill might NOT make her trust you. She might start thinking, “This guy takes me to a restaurant, and pays for my dinner. Something is definitely fishy.” and she would make sure that she meets you "only in a restaurant" and your dream about "kamre ka judaag ho gaya" will be shattered.
If she wasn’t already on guard with you, this act of yours will put her on guard. You might not be able to read her mind, but she can read 100s of intentions & combinations into your single smile.
Mind you, women are always on guard …which helps them in their search for ‘security’. It is as if they see these women cell boards like, call 1091, naarion awaz uthao etc. In a way, we men have made the women such experts in sensing the dangers nearby.
Not wanting to be left behind,even the Indian Navy has decided to give up its gender bias and plans to use a woman’s seventh sense…there will be a woman in every sea-going submarine.
This woman will have to look out for dangers under the sea. Navy has SONAR etc….but
apparently they aren’t as effective. The bill hasn’t been passed in the Parliament
yet…our MPs are debating over the Indian Navy’s suggestion that the woman be tied to
the nose of the submarine.
Anyway once you have won over her confidence (if you ever can)…and made her feel safe with you and from the World, when she is with you…she is "ready to be manipulated".
My dear men (women, you still reading?)…there are two things you need to know about a
woman:
1) Women have the inherent need to know everything (who, what, why, when, whome, whose, and really???????????????)
2) Women love to be flattered. (who does'nt and it shows that they are normal)
Women have this inner need to know everything about the man they are interested in or
have ended up marrying. Talk to her…not just about cricket scores or the latest
youtube video you saw on the net. Talk to her about what you did in office, what you
eat for lunch, what you spoke of when you met your colleagues in the loo, what you
were thinking while driving your car back from office, what her mother in law thinks
of her, what her sister in law said about her…just about every possible thing on the planet, except any other love rather lust interest of yours.
On the Flattery front, here are a few stock sentences that you can use to flatter her
and once she is flattered, you can manipulate the hell out of her. Remember, you are
dealing with a person with a seventh sense for security…so be careful.
1) Are you dieting? Or is it the gym? You are definitely losing weight
2) Where did you get that skirt? Goes really well with those shoes.
3) Did you do something to your hair today? I am seeing something extra.
4) I was walking just behind you…and guess what, when you walked past that bus
stop…all the men fainted.
5) You have such nice skin, i always feel like touchin you.
There are certain things you should never tell a woman. Even if it sounds ok to you,
as a man. Sentences like:
1) If I were only half as good looking as you are…I would be my company’s CEO.
2) You have such nice skin. Wish I had that too….damn these rashes!
3) Where did you get that skirt? Would love to see them crushed on the floor.
4) What deo do you use? I was walking just behind you and when you walked past that
bus stop…all the men fainted.
5) Did you do something to your hair today? I am an extra dosage on your shirt today.
While you try these out on the women in your lives, let me do the same. With some
luck, I just might succeed.
And one more thing before i take your leave, there should be "no women on top" and only "the man should be on top" as it just sounds erotic, but in real life.....it sucks...
cheers........
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Career Banao, Khud Jaan Jao...
Hello frnds,
I was down with cold and flue for last couple of days, so i could not come up with any new posts as my nose was completely in love with my hanky and my hanky was also madly in love with my hands, so my fingers were unable to touch the keyboard and my hanky was unable to touch my pocket. So the pocket and fingers could not create another angle in the triangular love story of nose, hands and hanky. I Must tell you one more thing that my cold sucks as badly as the menstrual, as it comes every month and the worst part is that i can't expect a menopause.
Now I am feeling muchchchchchchchchchchchch better.. as everything is in "melting stage" now and i have started breathing from my nose and mouth has finally got rid of this added job.
Few Days Back, I had posted my frustation over the TV shows and for since i've posted my thoughts about it, i started thinking about this more and more, and when i was about to finalize this post, i read the comment left by vijaya,
So Vijaya, this is that latest idea i have.....
An important life-altering one. After years of indecision, I am taking the plunge. My life will change forever after this and so will the lives of people around me. And I'll never be the same again. I wanted to let you know that I've decided to start a "TV channel. "
What? ?????????????????????????
Yeah, as I was saying. I have made this after a lot of thought. To prove to you, I'll put my business case in front of you. I've put this together for anyone else who's interested.
Ingredients :
You'll need:
Saas-bahu serials [ubiquitous]. We won't say much about this. It has been done to death (at least done to the death of my last post.booo hooo). We'll leave you to decide how many of these soaps you want in your channel.
Laughter challenge-type shows. For this, you'll need 2-3 judges who have individual distinct styles of laughing, e.g.,
raise hands and laugh loudly (like Siddhu - English spouting is optional. Really!) or
the 'now-it's-there-now-it's-not' grin that does not stretch your rictus enough to spoil your facelift (like Shekhar Suman)
the 'I-am-going-to-laugh-but-look-menacing' laugh (Shatrughan Sinha)
the spanking new
raise-your-fists-and-shake-them-in-the-air-so-that-the-contestant-does-not-know-if-you-are-laughing-at-his-joke-or-want-to-kill-him' laugh .. phew (Chunky Pandey, who is he?????????)
Of course you don't have to stick to these. You can come up with your own ones. Mine is this: Judges to come up to the contestants after the performance and do a 'Nagina Dance' (snake dance). The score is the number of times the Nag/Nagin (errr....snake/snakess?) lunges. He he he.
Reality shows: This one's pretty new (like Ring-o-garlic Pizza), but catching on like nobody's business (again like the pizza). Ironically, with shows like 'Roadies,' 'Big Boss,' 'Splitsvilla,' NOTHING is 'nobody's business' anymore. Everything is televisable. Even the wedding (rakhi ka swayamvar and rahul dulhaniya le jayega) and Betrayal (Emotional Atyachaar on Bindaas)
OK. To business, little ones! For reality shows, you will need diversity in character, thusly categorized:
Two battling men/women (OK OK. I am totally lying and trying to be nice. Women! the bitchier the better): Charlie and Ravneet(Roadies), Sherlyn and Tanaaz(Big Boss), Pavitra(?!!) and Monika(Splitsvilla). They should not get along at all AND they should form groups. Sprinkle liberally with bad words. The good thing about this is that you get to have polls of random people on the road. Who do you think is right? Pavitra or Monika? This will up your TRPs coz it takes on a very Ramayanesque 'Who's side are you on?' theme.
The underling. More often that not, this guy/gal has to win. This is to prove the triumph of the weak over the mighty. (Ashutosh in Roadies, Vindu in Big Boss). Thus reaffirming that when Mars finally invades us, we will be saved because of the good in our hearts.
The crybaby:: Absolutely needed. If properly utilized, this golden goose will give you television copy worth episodes! Like Vindu in BB3.They will cry at the drop of a hat. And behold! Viewers want to know why they cry in the next episode. It is also great for the ads you make. For example, if you show 'Next week on Roadies.... a shot of Mohit crying...,', you have it! People will watch it..
The bully. Do I need to say anything more? Charlie in Roadies. Just look at her reaction after any vote out and you'll know what I am talking about.
Talent shows: Also very new. Refer to dancing shows (Zara Nachke Dikha, Nachle, Sheher di kudiyaan VS. Gali de gunde, Aaja mahi ve, Dance India Dance), singing shows (Sa Re Ga Ma Pa, Indian Idol, Sooron ka mahasangraam etc), or game shows (Dus ka dum, Kya aap paanchvi..., Bingo, Khatron ke Khiladi... tera haseena, ek khila... sorry I got a little carried away) etc. Anyway, you get the point.
The good thing is that more than the contestants, these shows are a good place for the judges to either prove that they can do as well on TV or simply to kick some life into their dying careers. So, here are the talents that the JUDGES should have in your show.
The ability to laugh a lot, A LOT. You have to keep laughing... and smiling, and grinning. However!! Sometimes, you have to try NOT to laugh. For example, when entire families together try to don similar poshak and prance in front of you (Rock n Roll family)
You should know at least 1001(or more) ways of saying 'What you just did in front of me was good.'
You should have a house-full of enthusiasm. What I mean is not once should you pick up the mike and say 'Accha tha' or ' I liked it' or 'It was nice.' Instead, every time you pick up the mike, beam like a saint, and say 'Aapne to kamaal kar diya, sara stage hila diya.' or 'I have no words' or use the jhatka factor - say 'I am not pleased with your performance today.' Then wait for some time because there will be a drum sound and the camera will focus on the contestant's face for some time (for full impact with the dhannnnnnnnnn sound).
This one's very important: You should have one trademark 'reward.' For example, when you pretend to be really touched, give the contestant a hundred rupee note, or get up and walk to the stage and give them a hug, or say a poem for them. The upside here is that you get to show off your designer dress or designer cleavage when you walk to the stage. It just doesn't do to judge from behind the table, does it, really? Also a tremendous opportunity for your ego if the contestant touches your feet (?!)
Celebrity talk shows: Simi Garewal, Karan Johar, and now Farhan Akhtar! End of story. We rather liked it when celebrities cried on Garewal's show (sadists that we are), we grudgingly enjoyed the banter on Johar's. We want to throw something at Sajid Khan for his boring, artificial, made-up, plastic, pathetic attempt at a celebrity talk show.
We have grown up.....
If you have neither the time nor the inclination for the above detailed recipe, worry not. Chuck it all and go make a news channel, and one like India TV or The India TV, at that. Here is everything you need to fill 24 hours then:
1) Get one of your reporters who is already on duty somewhere to find a stone that looks like Ganesha or Shiva or the Nag God. It's OK if the resemblance is not striking. Your graphics will distract the viewers.
2) Tape one of your reporters speaking in a weird voice. expose images of aliens from ET, or Aliens Vs Predators. Then claim that aliens have made contact.
3) Every two days, proclaim that the world is going to end either because of Shani's 'prakop' (anger) or through a blackhole device that scientists in Russia have created.
(At this point, I'd like to repeat: You DO NOT NEED photographical evidence for any of this. Not even photoshop. Shoddily cut-paste heads and bodies. That's enough)
4) Claim that Salman and Katrina are already married for 7 years, or cut Abu Salem's head (chuckle) and paste it on Sanjay Dutt's body, team with Monica Bedi and play a romantic song in the background.
5) Say that our cows are being taken by aliens. (and that's more than the foreign hand)
6) Follow the culinary habits of witches (except your wife and girlfriend).
That's it, my kiddos, this is your beginner's guide for this career choice. More later. Love until then.
Cheers.......
I was down with cold and flue for last couple of days, so i could not come up with any new posts as my nose was completely in love with my hanky and my hanky was also madly in love with my hands, so my fingers were unable to touch the keyboard and my hanky was unable to touch my pocket. So the pocket and fingers could not create another angle in the triangular love story of nose, hands and hanky. I Must tell you one more thing that my cold sucks as badly as the menstrual, as it comes every month and the worst part is that i can't expect a menopause.
Now I am feeling muchchchchchchchchchchchch better.. as everything is in "melting stage" now and i have started breathing from my nose and mouth has finally got rid of this added job.
Few Days Back, I had posted my frustation over the TV shows and for since i've posted my thoughts about it, i started thinking about this more and more, and when i was about to finalize this post, i read the comment left by vijaya,
So Vijaya, this is that latest idea i have.....
An important life-altering one. After years of indecision, I am taking the plunge. My life will change forever after this and so will the lives of people around me. And I'll never be the same again. I wanted to let you know that I've decided to start a "TV channel. "
What? ?????????????????????????
Yeah, as I was saying. I have made this after a lot of thought. To prove to you, I'll put my business case in front of you. I've put this together for anyone else who's interested.
Ingredients :
You'll need:
Saas-bahu serials [ubiquitous]. We won't say much about this. It has been done to death (at least done to the death of my last post.booo hooo). We'll leave you to decide how many of these soaps you want in your channel.
Laughter challenge-type shows. For this, you'll need 2-3 judges who have individual distinct styles of laughing, e.g.,
raise hands and laugh loudly (like Siddhu - English spouting is optional. Really!) or
the 'now-it's-there-now-it's-not' grin that does not stretch your rictus enough to spoil your facelift (like Shekhar Suman)
the 'I-am-going-to-laugh-but-look-menacing' laugh (Shatrughan Sinha)
the spanking new
raise-your-fists-and-shake-them-in-the-air-so-that-the-contestant-does-not-know-if-you-are-laughing-at-his-joke-or-want-to-kill-him' laugh .. phew (Chunky Pandey, who is he?????????)
Of course you don't have to stick to these. You can come up with your own ones. Mine is this: Judges to come up to the contestants after the performance and do a 'Nagina Dance' (snake dance). The score is the number of times the Nag/Nagin (errr....snake/snakess?) lunges. He he he.
Reality shows: This one's pretty new (like Ring-o-garlic Pizza), but catching on like nobody's business (again like the pizza). Ironically, with shows like 'Roadies,' 'Big Boss,' 'Splitsvilla,' NOTHING is 'nobody's business' anymore. Everything is televisable. Even the wedding (rakhi ka swayamvar and rahul dulhaniya le jayega) and Betrayal (Emotional Atyachaar on Bindaas)
OK. To business, little ones! For reality shows, you will need diversity in character, thusly categorized:
Two battling men/women (OK OK. I am totally lying and trying to be nice. Women! the bitchier the better): Charlie and Ravneet(Roadies), Sherlyn and Tanaaz(Big Boss), Pavitra(?!!) and Monika(Splitsvilla). They should not get along at all AND they should form groups. Sprinkle liberally with bad words. The good thing about this is that you get to have polls of random people on the road. Who do you think is right? Pavitra or Monika? This will up your TRPs coz it takes on a very Ramayanesque 'Who's side are you on?' theme.
The underling. More often that not, this guy/gal has to win. This is to prove the triumph of the weak over the mighty. (Ashutosh in Roadies, Vindu in Big Boss). Thus reaffirming that when Mars finally invades us, we will be saved because of the good in our hearts.
The crybaby:: Absolutely needed. If properly utilized, this golden goose will give you television copy worth episodes! Like Vindu in BB3.They will cry at the drop of a hat. And behold! Viewers want to know why they cry in the next episode. It is also great for the ads you make. For example, if you show 'Next week on Roadies.... a shot of Mohit crying...,', you have it! People will watch it..
The bully. Do I need to say anything more? Charlie in Roadies. Just look at her reaction after any vote out and you'll know what I am talking about.
Talent shows: Also very new. Refer to dancing shows (Zara Nachke Dikha, Nachle, Sheher di kudiyaan VS. Gali de gunde, Aaja mahi ve, Dance India Dance), singing shows (Sa Re Ga Ma Pa, Indian Idol, Sooron ka mahasangraam etc), or game shows (Dus ka dum, Kya aap paanchvi..., Bingo, Khatron ke Khiladi... tera haseena, ek khila... sorry I got a little carried away) etc. Anyway, you get the point.
The good thing is that more than the contestants, these shows are a good place for the judges to either prove that they can do as well on TV or simply to kick some life into their dying careers. So, here are the talents that the JUDGES should have in your show.
The ability to laugh a lot, A LOT. You have to keep laughing... and smiling, and grinning. However!! Sometimes, you have to try NOT to laugh. For example, when entire families together try to don similar poshak and prance in front of you (Rock n Roll family)
You should know at least 1001(or more) ways of saying 'What you just did in front of me was good.'
You should have a house-full of enthusiasm. What I mean is not once should you pick up the mike and say 'Accha tha' or ' I liked it' or 'It was nice.' Instead, every time you pick up the mike, beam like a saint, and say 'Aapne to kamaal kar diya, sara stage hila diya.' or 'I have no words' or use the jhatka factor - say 'I am not pleased with your performance today.' Then wait for some time because there will be a drum sound and the camera will focus on the contestant's face for some time (for full impact with the dhannnnnnnnnn sound).
This one's very important: You should have one trademark 'reward.' For example, when you pretend to be really touched, give the contestant a hundred rupee note, or get up and walk to the stage and give them a hug, or say a poem for them. The upside here is that you get to show off your designer dress or designer cleavage when you walk to the stage. It just doesn't do to judge from behind the table, does it, really? Also a tremendous opportunity for your ego if the contestant touches your feet (?!)
Celebrity talk shows: Simi Garewal, Karan Johar, and now Farhan Akhtar! End of story. We rather liked it when celebrities cried on Garewal's show (sadists that we are), we grudgingly enjoyed the banter on Johar's. We want to throw something at Sajid Khan for his boring, artificial, made-up, plastic, pathetic attempt at a celebrity talk show.
We have grown up.....
If you have neither the time nor the inclination for the above detailed recipe, worry not. Chuck it all and go make a news channel, and one like India TV or The India TV, at that. Here is everything you need to fill 24 hours then:
1) Get one of your reporters who is already on duty somewhere to find a stone that looks like Ganesha or Shiva or the Nag God. It's OK if the resemblance is not striking. Your graphics will distract the viewers.
2) Tape one of your reporters speaking in a weird voice. expose images of aliens from ET, or Aliens Vs Predators. Then claim that aliens have made contact.
3) Every two days, proclaim that the world is going to end either because of Shani's 'prakop' (anger) or through a blackhole device that scientists in Russia have created.
(At this point, I'd like to repeat: You DO NOT NEED photographical evidence for any of this. Not even photoshop. Shoddily cut-paste heads and bodies. That's enough)
4) Claim that Salman and Katrina are already married for 7 years, or cut Abu Salem's head (chuckle) and paste it on Sanjay Dutt's body, team with Monica Bedi and play a romantic song in the background.
5) Say that our cows are being taken by aliens. (and that's more than the foreign hand)
6) Follow the culinary habits of witches (except your wife and girlfriend).
That's it, my kiddos, this is your beginner's guide for this career choice. More later. Love until then.
Cheers.......
Sunday, March 7, 2010
What an "Idea" Sir Ji .......
Hi Friends,
So, I am back after spending few of the most memorable moments of my life and believe me, I am going to cherish them forever and ever. I hope non of you missed any posts by aman and himanshu. Vijaya.. you can have a word with aman and he would be replying your question as i have delegated my jobs and poor aman has got the job to reply all the questions.
So now i am going to do what i am best at.. arrey yaar tum logon ko pakana aur kya???
And all of a sudden i got an IDEA .........
IDEA, I have it , You have it, All of us have plenty of ideas in our minds,.Origin of almost everything. God had an idea to create Adam and Eve, Adam and Eve had an idea to eat that apple, that's how they got an idea of love making which gave birth to another person with loads and loads of ideas.i do't know but perhaps many many years back there were only few people on the earth and now there are billions of people, same is with the ideas.
In the most narrow sense, an idea is just whatever is before the mind when one thinks. Very often, ideas are construed as representational images;like images of some object. In other contexts, ideas are taken to be concepts, although abstract concepts do not necessarily appear as images. Many philosophers consider ideas to be a fundamental ontological category of being.The capacity to create and understand the meaning of ideas is considered to be an essential and defining feature of human beings.In a popular sense, an idea arises in a reflex, spontaneous manner, even without thinking or serious reflection.After this intensive meaning of "Idea", Let's get a bit practical about it. Is an idea always original?? Is it always innovative?? Is it always creative or destructive?? or is it just another term for "being inspired"?? Idea can be a result of "thinking excellence" or "thinking failure". Now i would like to discuss these two aspects of Idea.I was so good in thinking about this topic to write or perhaps i was unable to think about any other tangible thing, which fetch me this "Idea" to write about "Idea" itself..( and i still don't have any idea about it).I don't think that an idea can be original coz a need of something leads to have an idea, an outcome of a thought leads to have an idea. But is an "Idea" worth all the credit which it gets after any invention, any success or any failure?? As i have mentioned arlier, we all think and we all have "ideas" in out minds. Quite often we say "it's a good idea" or "it's a bad idea".But is it idea itself which makes it good or bad or is it something else??.I reckon every idea is good, innovative and creative however it's the execution which makes it good, bad or ugly.Here’s the problem with the formulation. It belies a misunderstanding of what an actionable “idea” really is. A good idea is almost never some light bulb moment that occurs where you realize some insight that no one else has seen. In truth there are few of those. Very, very few people are that smart or that lucky. Great actionable ideas are really a collection of much smaller ideas, weaved together in such a way as to create something useful unique and compelling. There are few actionable “aha” and "eureka"moments.
In other words, to me, coming up with great actionable ideas requires lots of perspiration, iteration, and ideation. However, once you have an actionable idea that has been achieved through this process it is worth way more than 1%. I would say getting to this point is worth easily 50% and perhaps well more than 50% of the value of your enterprise. Actionable and truly compelling business ideas are incredibly valuable. And most people that say otherwise probably don’t have them. For example if you open up a shoe store at Lajpat Nagar, there is likely no “idea” there. But if you have developed a set of insights which allows you to develop a cost effective and safe raw material, that is certainly a valuable idea.
The problem is that people confuse the idea creation process with the execution process. They are different. I think one can, at times, blend the idea creation process with the development process, but there are important distinctions. When development is just execution of some defined idea, that is not idea creation. That is part of execution.
On the other hand, when the development process is part of the ideation process, you have set the stage for an environment where real creativity is possible. But in order for this to work, the development process must be more interactive and less goal-oriented. Great ideas come from having a bit of a “lab-like” environment in the early stages of your process. This is because exploration is almost always required to achieve a great compelling concept. Few of us has the ability to see with clarity a really useful idea from the beginning of the process, which is why iteration and stepwise refinement is so important.
This leads to what I think is a very important issue in the idea development process. There are lots of people who strongly suggest that you should do your development in public. It is part of the “release early and often” concept. But I also believe that this concept is not effective in developing great ideas because it is limiting. The minute that you get real people involved, their needs become much more pedestrian. They will yell loudly about things that may be important to their use of the product, but they will rarely yell about some new game-changing concept. In fact they will resist radical change and rethinking because it messes with their now committed workflow. And now you are comitted to supporting them.
To be clear, I am not saying that a mediocre idea can't be a good business. But good businesses are not all great ideas.
So as I see it, if you want to do something great, you should strongly consider whether you have enough meat on your conceptual bone before you decide to release publicly. Because when you get users involved, it is the equivalent of putting the saw and the screwdriver down and grabbing the sand paper. There will likely be few additional big ideas after that point.
And so the point of all of this is that I feel few people really respect the process of creating big ideas. Compelling idea creation is hard and it is incredibly valuable. And as I see it, the “release early and often” trend is a reflection of a broad-based acceptance of incrementalism, in lieu of real creativity..
To uncomplicate the above said things, An idea remains an idea till the time you don't loose the soul of it. It looses value when you start thinking about the acceptance of your idea and it's pretty much like taking a help of a public pole to decide if you child is good enough to be called your child or not. When we start thinking about the acceptance of an idea and we modify it to get it accepted by others, it becomes a product and a product can neither be valued nor be respected, it can only be sold.
And with 24 years of experience, I have learnt that Ideas are not great, It's our intention and execution which makes them great.
Cheers...
So, I am back after spending few of the most memorable moments of my life and believe me, I am going to cherish them forever and ever. I hope non of you missed any posts by aman and himanshu. Vijaya.. you can have a word with aman and he would be replying your question as i have delegated my jobs and poor aman has got the job to reply all the questions.
So now i am going to do what i am best at.. arrey yaar tum logon ko pakana aur kya???
And all of a sudden i got an IDEA .........
IDEA, I have it , You have it, All of us have plenty of ideas in our minds,.Origin of almost everything. God had an idea to create Adam and Eve, Adam and Eve had an idea to eat that apple, that's how they got an idea of love making which gave birth to another person with loads and loads of ideas.i do't know but perhaps many many years back there were only few people on the earth and now there are billions of people, same is with the ideas.
In the most narrow sense, an idea is just whatever is before the mind when one thinks. Very often, ideas are construed as representational images;like images of some object. In other contexts, ideas are taken to be concepts, although abstract concepts do not necessarily appear as images. Many philosophers consider ideas to be a fundamental ontological category of being.The capacity to create and understand the meaning of ideas is considered to be an essential and defining feature of human beings.In a popular sense, an idea arises in a reflex, spontaneous manner, even without thinking or serious reflection.After this intensive meaning of "Idea", Let's get a bit practical about it. Is an idea always original?? Is it always innovative?? Is it always creative or destructive?? or is it just another term for "being inspired"?? Idea can be a result of "thinking excellence" or "thinking failure". Now i would like to discuss these two aspects of Idea.I was so good in thinking about this topic to write or perhaps i was unable to think about any other tangible thing, which fetch me this "Idea" to write about "Idea" itself..( and i still don't have any idea about it).I don't think that an idea can be original coz a need of something leads to have an idea, an outcome of a thought leads to have an idea. But is an "Idea" worth all the credit which it gets after any invention, any success or any failure?? As i have mentioned arlier, we all think and we all have "ideas" in out minds. Quite often we say "it's a good idea" or "it's a bad idea".But is it idea itself which makes it good or bad or is it something else??.I reckon every idea is good, innovative and creative however it's the execution which makes it good, bad or ugly.Here’s the problem with the formulation. It belies a misunderstanding of what an actionable “idea” really is. A good idea is almost never some light bulb moment that occurs where you realize some insight that no one else has seen. In truth there are few of those. Very, very few people are that smart or that lucky. Great actionable ideas are really a collection of much smaller ideas, weaved together in such a way as to create something useful unique and compelling. There are few actionable “aha” and "eureka"moments.
In other words, to me, coming up with great actionable ideas requires lots of perspiration, iteration, and ideation. However, once you have an actionable idea that has been achieved through this process it is worth way more than 1%. I would say getting to this point is worth easily 50% and perhaps well more than 50% of the value of your enterprise. Actionable and truly compelling business ideas are incredibly valuable. And most people that say otherwise probably don’t have them. For example if you open up a shoe store at Lajpat Nagar, there is likely no “idea” there. But if you have developed a set of insights which allows you to develop a cost effective and safe raw material, that is certainly a valuable idea.
The problem is that people confuse the idea creation process with the execution process. They are different. I think one can, at times, blend the idea creation process with the development process, but there are important distinctions. When development is just execution of some defined idea, that is not idea creation. That is part of execution.
On the other hand, when the development process is part of the ideation process, you have set the stage for an environment where real creativity is possible. But in order for this to work, the development process must be more interactive and less goal-oriented. Great ideas come from having a bit of a “lab-like” environment in the early stages of your process. This is because exploration is almost always required to achieve a great compelling concept. Few of us has the ability to see with clarity a really useful idea from the beginning of the process, which is why iteration and stepwise refinement is so important.
This leads to what I think is a very important issue in the idea development process. There are lots of people who strongly suggest that you should do your development in public. It is part of the “release early and often” concept. But I also believe that this concept is not effective in developing great ideas because it is limiting. The minute that you get real people involved, their needs become much more pedestrian. They will yell loudly about things that may be important to their use of the product, but they will rarely yell about some new game-changing concept. In fact they will resist radical change and rethinking because it messes with their now committed workflow. And now you are comitted to supporting them.
To be clear, I am not saying that a mediocre idea can't be a good business. But good businesses are not all great ideas.
So as I see it, if you want to do something great, you should strongly consider whether you have enough meat on your conceptual bone before you decide to release publicly. Because when you get users involved, it is the equivalent of putting the saw and the screwdriver down and grabbing the sand paper. There will likely be few additional big ideas after that point.
And so the point of all of this is that I feel few people really respect the process of creating big ideas. Compelling idea creation is hard and it is incredibly valuable. And as I see it, the “release early and often” trend is a reflection of a broad-based acceptance of incrementalism, in lieu of real creativity..
To uncomplicate the above said things, An idea remains an idea till the time you don't loose the soul of it. It looses value when you start thinking about the acceptance of your idea and it's pretty much like taking a help of a public pole to decide if you child is good enough to be called your child or not. When we start thinking about the acceptance of an idea and we modify it to get it accepted by others, it becomes a product and a product can neither be valued nor be respected, it can only be sold.
And with 24 years of experience, I have learnt that Ideas are not great, It's our intention and execution which makes them great.
Cheers...
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