Hi friends,
Back to work after 2 days of my weekly offs, But believe me, Thursday is not a good day to begin the week. When everybody looks happy that they have survived 4 working days and just one day to go for the weekend, I come to start my week and work on the days when "normal" people don't work.
However this morning when i came in and checked my last post about the "renovation" at my place, I thought is it the furniture which needs to be rearranged in order to live comfortably or do we need to rearrange our life to live "happily" ????? but before we could get this answer, We need to understand different aspects of "being happy" or in the broader sense, Perhaps first we need to understand the "happiness" itself. So i did search and then researched the facts and this is the outcome which i have reached to.
"Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not, does not depend on how the furniture is arranged. It is how I should arrange my mind.” .
I came across the above quote while doing the above said research and got to thinking about ‘happiness’. It is a kind of secular nirvana of our human experience and one desire that we all share. The Buddhists say that our desire to be happy is one of the main things that connects all sentient beings. We all want to be happy and none of us wants to suffer. Happiness in modern media is also a product such as soap, that is fastened to products like big red bows to stimulate us to want them and buy them.
The trouble we humans run into with happiness is that we think it is something that we have to make happen through our work, our money, our religions, our fantasies and our relationships. If we do ‘this‘ then we will be happy. This ‘this‘ depends on who we are asking but the equation is always the same. The truth is that happiness isn’t a state to be attained, nor is it a place in our lives that we arrive at. Money, thinness (as per few recent studies on urban women), celebrity, you name it, all have been touted as the path to happiness. None of them are. They can each make life easier and more fun, but none of them can guarantee happiness. All you have to do is glance through a celebrity magazine to see the sad reality of that.
The truth is that happy is something that you decide to be. It is the product of our perceptions and our perceptions are driven by our beliefs about ourselves and the world. These beliefs are formed early in life and reinforced by the world as we learn and grow because we never challenge them. We merely strain to see out of the same glasses we were given as children and never think to get a new pair. If we are lucky those glasses get dashed along the way by some life shaking experience and we end up seeking a new pair through counseling, spirituality, or other paths of inner exploration. Emerging later with a pair of glasses of our own, we can then make new decisions that lead with the belief that happiness is where we start, not where we are going. As the old saying goes, ‘happy is as happy does.’ however that's not the actual thing we go through, But instead of that, We fool ourself by considering the "path" as "destination" and because of the "momentory" or "volatile" happiness, We never think of the "constant" and "ultimate" happiness which is the destination of life and end up getting ourselves "looped" in this jouney to happiness and never reach the destination of true happiness.
Here are few Tips for ‘arranging your mind’ or 'rearranging your mind' towards happiness:
1. Take responsibility for everything in your life right now. This includes body, money, relationships, health, state of mind, work, all of it. This is very important because vicitms refuse to be happy no matter how hard they try or how much they have.
2. Decide that the power to be happy is in you, is something that you own, doesn't lie outside of you and isn’t someone else's to grant you. Very little, if any of how we feel, happy or not, has anything to do with anything outside of ourselves. Yet most of the time we look to someone or something else to fix us, or give us something that we can use to feel better.
3. Stop focusing on what you don't have or what you don't want. Most of the world decides on what they want to have, do and/or feel whether more money, a better job, less weight (or more weight in my case), healing from an illness, and then they focus on its opposite. Someone who wants more money thinks and complains about being in debt. Someone who wants to lose weight or gain weight thinks and complains about being fat. And so it goes. Our brains only know what we tell them and they are very compliant. If you want to be a fat person, complain about not being able to stick to a diet and your brain will help you out. Taking what you believe as real, it will produce the depressive neurochemistry to support the feeling of ‘I can’t’ and’ what’s the point’, and you won't be able to make the changes necessary to have the physical body you say you want to have.
4. Happiness is not a goal but a moment to moment experience that comes from a decision to feel good. This creates an intention that will inform your choices and help you always go in the direction of what you want, what feels good to your body, mind and spirit, and what will create that feeling of happiness and joy, in every moment. However as i have mentioned earlier no matter how good your journey is, it can not be better than the destination and this is applicable only if your journey has a destination. Because most of us don't really identify our destination and even if we do, We hardly make any honest efforts to get there.
5. Understand that we are meant to be happy. Life is supposed to be fun, or, what's the point since no one is getting out alive. Lighten up, laugh at yourself, risk making a bad decision or seeming silly. None of us are really that powerful or important in the grand scheme of things. Isn't that a relief?
and finally,
The key to happiness lies in that moment of connection with ones experience: if you can't meet yourself where you are, then, you will never truly 'be' happy anywhere else...
Cheers.....
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Sunday, March 28, 2010
I am sick and tired of it..............
It's been more than a week since I've written something and it's not because of time, but because the week was "an awesome non happening week". Watched so many movies, Did nothing unusual, Went through a nightmare called "jack Daniel"( as i paid 1400 bucks for just 3 pegs of it), Fought with the family to get some excitement and last but not the least a fu***ng “renovation” at my place which drove me nuts. I just don't understand why do we clean our house, especially when we know that the furnitures are not going to shine forever, neither every corner of my bathroom will always reflect my sparkling teeth. So why do we spend, rather waste so much of time and money on a "bloody renovation".
The other day i was at home as accidentally i got a leave and believe me, It was one of the most horrible time I've ever spent at my place (one of the most horrible because i am MARRIED, So i never run out of horrible moments in my life). I woke up at around 10 in the morning and after that i was just sitting on a bean bag for about 8 hrs because there was no other place in the house to sit (that excludes the place where we sit to sh*t) and i had to adjust myself on this poor bag, thankfully my "better half or bitter half " was kind enough to let me watch the TV and most important, All the channels which i usually don't get to see, So i watched couple of movies and IPL as well. But believe me, In spite of the IPL match and some movies which i got to watch, i will still remain stuck to my opinion that "renovation sucks".
Normally, mind it, "normally" my house is clean and looks nice and is a really nice place to live as well, However since "The change is the most constant thing" in the world, So the setup of my house keeps on changing. Sometimes when we go out of town, When there are too many guests are coming , Because of navratri and approx one week of every month because of routine cleaning sessions. So most of the times you fill find that the center table has got an extreme corner of the drawing room for itself and the bean bags sit on top of it , TV has started feeling quite comfortable on the bed and the carpet happily sleeps on the couch. And now when i have become so familiar with this setup, I feel really uncomfortable when it comes to sit on couch or to sleep on the bed. Now i don't like watching my face in the mirror any more and i love brushing up my teeth in the kitchen sink with looking at my reflections on frying pan, kadhai, bowls etc.
In this post, now onwards whenever I'll have to say worst, I'll use "best" and other words just opposite to what i feel. Because as i had mentioned in a post of mine about a month back, there are so many things in life which we can not control, so instead of cribbing about it, we should face it with a smile :-) and take it in a positive manner (in my life, anything and everything which is related to me, my wife, my home, my clothes, my habits, my married life etc. falls under this category).
The other day i was at home as accidentally i got a leave and believe me, It was one of the most horrible time I've ever spent at my place (one of the most horrible because i am MARRIED, So i never run out of horrible moments in my life). I woke up at around 10 in the morning and after that i was just sitting on a bean bag for about 8 hrs because there was no other place in the house to sit (that excludes the place where we sit to sh*t) and i had to adjust myself on this poor bag, thankfully my "better half or bitter half " was kind enough to let me watch the TV and most important, All the channels which i usually don't get to see, So i watched couple of movies and IPL as well. But believe me, In spite of the IPL match and some movies which i got to watch, i will still remain stuck to my opinion that "renovation sucks".
Normally, mind it, "normally" my house is clean and looks nice and is a really nice place to live as well, However since "The change is the most constant thing" in the world, So the setup of my house keeps on changing. Sometimes when we go out of town, When there are too many guests are coming , Because of navratri and approx one week of every month because of routine cleaning sessions. So most of the times you fill find that the center table has got an extreme corner of the drawing room for itself and the bean bags sit on top of it , TV has started feeling quite comfortable on the bed and the carpet happily sleeps on the couch. And now when i have become so familiar with this setup, I feel really uncomfortable when it comes to sit on couch or to sleep on the bed. Now i don't like watching my face in the mirror any more and i love brushing up my teeth in the kitchen sink with looking at my reflections on frying pan, kadhai, bowls etc.
In this post, now onwards whenever I'll have to say worst, I'll use "best" and other words just opposite to what i feel. Because as i had mentioned in a post of mine about a month back, there are so many things in life which we can not control, so instead of cribbing about it, we should face it with a smile :-) and take it in a positive manner (in my life, anything and everything which is related to me, my wife, my home, my clothes, my habits, my married life etc. falls under this category).
So i was talking about the "normal" setup of my house. So as i was sitting on the bag and was watching some movies, the boy who was painting the walls of my bedroom was having a very nice and light time there and in spite of me giving him really tough looks and my body structure, He kept calling me "uncle ji". Which was not a bit less than the icing on the cake. Thankfully i had one of my really good friends, Abhishek with me , Because of whom i was not feeling that bad and my spontaneous feelings toward the renovation were forbidden (for people who could not understand this statement, because my friend was there, So i could not scream and oppose this "ATYAACHAAR" and i had to play an obedient, caring and a responsible husband).
This renovation here, Which I am talking about, Is going on for last 2-3 days. Everyday when I am entering the house in the evening, I get to see a new angle of my lifestyle which even I am not aware of. Everyday I come in, and look for a place to sit and remove my shoes, then I look for the freaking mobile charger, some place to keep my wallet and finally a corner to change my clothes. Then I get the order to connect the TV with the Set Top Box because I am quite good when it comes to fiddle around with wires and all. After spending couple of hours in different corners of my house, I get my dinner either on the floor, on my lap or somewhere else.
I am keeping it quite short this time as i have got my concentration somewhere else these day but i'll surely come up with something better next time andI am full of hope (like past four days) that today when I' ll enter my house, I might get to see some “good changes”.
So Guys, Girls and Gays....
Please pray for me.
Cheers...
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
U, A or U/A.....
We are changed now and changed alot. In terms of our habits, priorities, liking, fashion, lifestyle and almost everything. Somehow we have started accepting the most rejected things and vice versa, This thought came into my mind when few days back i was just sitting in my cab and was listening to FM, suddenly the RJ roarded that she is going to play the title track of an upcoming movie, "Love Sex aur Dhokha". Then the song started with this title "Love Sex Aur Dhokha" numerous times in it. I liked the song even when the lyrics of this song don't make any bloody sense but the voice of Kailash Kher and some foot tapping beat was good enough to make me download this song on my phone.
Let's go 15-20 years back, There was a Govinda movie released and i am still not sure if it was "Dulaara" or "Laadla" with Karishma Kapoor. There was a song in the movie "sexy-sexy-sexy mujhe log bolein" and that time i did not know what does sexy mean and that's why i was not at all bothered about where and when i should sing or humm this song and in result, I got scolded so may times by my dad, teachers and other elders, that time we had only one T.V. channel " Doordarshan" and this song used to get aired multiple times on TV and on "Vividh Bharti (the first radio station playing music)".
However this song was on for few weeks and after that one day when i heard the song, "sexy-sexy-sexy" was replaced by "baby-baby-baby" and i also saw the expession of relief on my dad's face. After few years, I came to know what sexy means and by that time, We had started using this word quite frequently. I guess in the same or few years later or earlier the famous song from the movie "Khalnaayak", "choli ke pichhe kya hai" came into existance and again my father started asking me to fetch some water everytime it aired on TV. However it was not as tricky as "sexy" for me,and as soon as Ila Arun used to ask "Choli ke pichhe kya hai?? ", Alka Yagnik used to "LIE" " Choli mein dil hai mera". However nothing changed in this songs as the writer
tookcare of everything in this song and inspite of a controversial question asked in this song, He did not put accross the right or the exact answer.
I still remember, that Doordarshan used to broadcast some english movies after 11 PM on sundays as well as some english TV shows, and at that time, there was no censorship on those movies and shows and also i was fortunate enough to watch "Kamasutra's" uncut version and few foreign shows with babes showing their "assets".
But things have changed now, if you notice , whenever there is a movie is being aired on a TV channel, especially a hindi movie channel, you hardly get to watch any intimate scene or any voilent sequence. The Hero raises his gun to shoot and in the next scene you see that the villain is dead and you don't get to know if the hero has shot the villian once, twice or thrice. So the much awaited censorship has finally arrived but in an overcaring or you can say an orthodox manner. But this same censorship goes for a toss when it comes to TV shows and now days our own sweet idiot box has been flooded with so many "reality shows".From dating to engagement, enagement to courtship, courtship to marriage and marriage to divorce and at times about how to become a good parent or how to become a good son or daughter.There are about 1-2 reality shows being aired on every popular channel and we get to see and hear so may beeps and blurred images even before 11 PM (as this is a criteria set by the I&B ministory since early 90s).
I am not going to talk about any of these shows as most of my readers have raised this concern that anuj does'nt miss any of the TV shows and this post is more about this change which has taken place, Instead of the content of these shows.
The question which made my right this is still there, do we really need a censor board or censorship??????
Naturally, it falls upon government bureaucrats to decide what should be there and the problem is that India has long had a climate where it’s considered perfectly acceptable for the state to meddle in what its citizens can watch, and listen to. I googled about it and found a really nice fact that In 1968, for instance, “abbreviated skirts” and scenes “suggestive of soliciting” were enough to send “A Tale of Four Cities,” a documentary by KA Abbas partly set in Mumbai’s red-light districts, all the way to the Supreme Court. India’s top judicial body duly upheld its ban , setting a precedent for censorship that is still cited today. It ruled that films had to be scrutinized more carefully than other media because “a person reading a book or other writing (or)hearing a speech or viewing a painting or sculpture is not so deeply stirred as by seeing a motion picture.” In the view of the court, thus, Indians were like putty in the hands of these powerful media, incapable of making their own decisions or using their own discretion.
But, in recent years, things have begun to change. The economic growth triggered by India’s opening up has created a much larger middle class. And the intellectual influences that have poured in from elsewhere in the world have made this middle class more alive to the need to fight for freedom of expression.
Such voices are still few, and these actions not yet loud enough to counter the regressive forces that routinely stifle freedom of expression in India. But they are growing, and offer hope for India’s future.
And the conclusion which i got to after a bit of research and reviews is that there can't be a fixed policy or law about it as we have changed and changing like anything, so the policy and procedures also needed to be changed and it should be a viewer who decides, what he or she wants to see and listen and not a bunch of few old people who have seen changes only in their files and hair colour.
This is what i had , however you all are always welcome to come with your inputs..
Cheers....
Let's go 15-20 years back, There was a Govinda movie released and i am still not sure if it was "Dulaara" or "Laadla" with Karishma Kapoor. There was a song in the movie "sexy-sexy-sexy mujhe log bolein" and that time i did not know what does sexy mean and that's why i was not at all bothered about where and when i should sing or humm this song and in result, I got scolded so may times by my dad, teachers and other elders, that time we had only one T.V. channel " Doordarshan" and this song used to get aired multiple times on TV and on "Vividh Bharti (the first radio station playing music)".
However this song was on for few weeks and after that one day when i heard the song, "sexy-sexy-sexy" was replaced by "baby-baby-baby" and i also saw the expession of relief on my dad's face. After few years, I came to know what sexy means and by that time, We had started using this word quite frequently. I guess in the same or few years later or earlier the famous song from the movie "Khalnaayak", "choli ke pichhe kya hai" came into existance and again my father started asking me to fetch some water everytime it aired on TV. However it was not as tricky as "sexy" for me,and as soon as Ila Arun used to ask "Choli ke pichhe kya hai?? ", Alka Yagnik used to "LIE" " Choli mein dil hai mera". However nothing changed in this songs as the writer
tookcare of everything in this song and inspite of a controversial question asked in this song, He did not put accross the right or the exact answer.
I still remember, that Doordarshan used to broadcast some english movies after 11 PM on sundays as well as some english TV shows, and at that time, there was no censorship on those movies and shows and also i was fortunate enough to watch "Kamasutra's" uncut version and few foreign shows with babes showing their "assets".
But things have changed now, if you notice , whenever there is a movie is being aired on a TV channel, especially a hindi movie channel, you hardly get to watch any intimate scene or any voilent sequence. The Hero raises his gun to shoot and in the next scene you see that the villain is dead and you don't get to know if the hero has shot the villian once, twice or thrice. So the much awaited censorship has finally arrived but in an overcaring or you can say an orthodox manner. But this same censorship goes for a toss when it comes to TV shows and now days our own sweet idiot box has been flooded with so many "reality shows".From dating to engagement, enagement to courtship, courtship to marriage and marriage to divorce and at times about how to become a good parent or how to become a good son or daughter.There are about 1-2 reality shows being aired on every popular channel and we get to see and hear so may beeps and blurred images even before 11 PM (as this is a criteria set by the I&B ministory since early 90s).
I am not going to talk about any of these shows as most of my readers have raised this concern that anuj does'nt miss any of the TV shows and this post is more about this change which has taken place, Instead of the content of these shows.
The question which made my right this is still there, do we really need a censor board or censorship??????
Naturally, it falls upon government bureaucrats to decide what should be there and the problem is that India has long had a climate where it’s considered perfectly acceptable for the state to meddle in what its citizens can watch, and listen to. I googled about it and found a really nice fact that In 1968, for instance, “abbreviated skirts” and scenes “suggestive of soliciting” were enough to send “A Tale of Four Cities,” a documentary by KA Abbas partly set in Mumbai’s red-light districts, all the way to the Supreme Court. India’s top judicial body duly upheld its ban , setting a precedent for censorship that is still cited today. It ruled that films had to be scrutinized more carefully than other media because “a person reading a book or other writing (or)hearing a speech or viewing a painting or sculpture is not so deeply stirred as by seeing a motion picture.” In the view of the court, thus, Indians were like putty in the hands of these powerful media, incapable of making their own decisions or using their own discretion.
But, in recent years, things have begun to change. The economic growth triggered by India’s opening up has created a much larger middle class. And the intellectual influences that have poured in from elsewhere in the world have made this middle class more alive to the need to fight for freedom of expression.
Such voices are still few, and these actions not yet loud enough to counter the regressive forces that routinely stifle freedom of expression in India. But they are growing, and offer hope for India’s future.
And the conclusion which i got to after a bit of research and reviews is that there can't be a fixed policy or law about it as we have changed and changing like anything, so the policy and procedures also needed to be changed and it should be a viewer who decides, what he or she wants to see and listen and not a bunch of few old people who have seen changes only in their files and hair colour.
This is what i had , however you all are always welcome to come with your inputs..
Cheers....
Monday, March 15, 2010
Women On Top...........
Today, I thought i would pen down my thoughts about "how to manipulate a man", However after about one and half hour of brainstorming, i got only one answer, which is a universal truth, least controversial, highly acclaimed and broadly accepted and that answer is "just give him s*x". That's when i decided to write "how to manipulate a women".
I know it will be difficult task. I might fail to deliver (expected, isn’t it? On which planet do men deliver?)…please bear with me. After all,the first question ‘what women want’ still remains unanswered.
A Women needs security. She has two issues to sort before she is even willing to let you get close enough so you can attempt a manipulation.
1) Is she feeling safe with you?
2) Is she feeling safe from the World when she is with you?
Remember, this is why a woman never falls in love at first sight. coz One doesn’t get to know the bank balance at first sight.
If your answer to the above two questions is ‘Yes’ you are my star and you have every
right to continue reading this article. Other men may pick up the latest PlayBoy and head to their favorite corner.
What politicians are to the citizens of a democracy, men are to the women. We never vote for the best politician (for there aren’t any) …we always end up voting for the least corrupt. Similarly, women are forced to choose the one who is the least likely to mess up their lives – which is anyway going around and around in cycles. It is this need for security and the ability to compromise, that makes a woman prefer the guy who offered to pay the bill, though he took her to a cheap restaurant. Never walk into the restaurant and say magnanimously: “We will go Dutch…but I will take care of the tip myself.” This just might tip the scales in favour of the guy she had been keeping aside as Plan B.
But taking her to a restaurant and paying the bill might NOT make her trust you. She might start thinking, “This guy takes me to a restaurant, and pays for my dinner. Something is definitely fishy.” and she would make sure that she meets you "only in a restaurant" and your dream about "kamre ka judaag ho gaya" will be shattered.
If she wasn’t already on guard with you, this act of yours will put her on guard. You might not be able to read her mind, but she can read 100s of intentions & combinations into your single smile.
Mind you, women are always on guard …which helps them in their search for ‘security’. It is as if they see these women cell boards like, call 1091, naarion awaz uthao etc. In a way, we men have made the women such experts in sensing the dangers nearby.
Not wanting to be left behind,even the Indian Navy has decided to give up its gender bias and plans to use a woman’s seventh sense…there will be a woman in every sea-going submarine.
This woman will have to look out for dangers under the sea. Navy has SONAR etc….but
apparently they aren’t as effective. The bill hasn’t been passed in the Parliament
yet…our MPs are debating over the Indian Navy’s suggestion that the woman be tied to
the nose of the submarine.
Anyway once you have won over her confidence (if you ever can)…and made her feel safe with you and from the World, when she is with you…she is "ready to be manipulated".
My dear men (women, you still reading?)…there are two things you need to know about a
woman:
1) Women have the inherent need to know everything (who, what, why, when, whome, whose, and really???????????????)
2) Women love to be flattered. (who does'nt and it shows that they are normal)
Women have this inner need to know everything about the man they are interested in or
have ended up marrying. Talk to her…not just about cricket scores or the latest
youtube video you saw on the net. Talk to her about what you did in office, what you
eat for lunch, what you spoke of when you met your colleagues in the loo, what you
were thinking while driving your car back from office, what her mother in law thinks
of her, what her sister in law said about her…just about every possible thing on the planet, except any other love rather lust interest of yours.
On the Flattery front, here are a few stock sentences that you can use to flatter her
and once she is flattered, you can manipulate the hell out of her. Remember, you are
dealing with a person with a seventh sense for security…so be careful.
1) Are you dieting? Or is it the gym? You are definitely losing weight
2) Where did you get that skirt? Goes really well with those shoes.
3) Did you do something to your hair today? I am seeing something extra.
4) I was walking just behind you…and guess what, when you walked past that bus
stop…all the men fainted.
5) You have such nice skin, i always feel like touchin you.
There are certain things you should never tell a woman. Even if it sounds ok to you,
as a man. Sentences like:
1) If I were only half as good looking as you are…I would be my company’s CEO.
2) You have such nice skin. Wish I had that too….damn these rashes!
3) Where did you get that skirt? Would love to see them crushed on the floor.
4) What deo do you use? I was walking just behind you and when you walked past that
bus stop…all the men fainted.
5) Did you do something to your hair today? I am an extra dosage on your shirt today.
While you try these out on the women in your lives, let me do the same. With some
luck, I just might succeed.
And one more thing before i take your leave, there should be "no women on top" and only "the man should be on top" as it just sounds erotic, but in real life.....it sucks...
cheers........
I know it will be difficult task. I might fail to deliver (expected, isn’t it? On which planet do men deliver?)…please bear with me. After all,the first question ‘what women want’ still remains unanswered.
A Women needs security. She has two issues to sort before she is even willing to let you get close enough so you can attempt a manipulation.
1) Is she feeling safe with you?
2) Is she feeling safe from the World when she is with you?
Remember, this is why a woman never falls in love at first sight. coz One doesn’t get to know the bank balance at first sight.
If your answer to the above two questions is ‘Yes’ you are my star and you have every
right to continue reading this article. Other men may pick up the latest PlayBoy and head to their favorite corner.
What politicians are to the citizens of a democracy, men are to the women. We never vote for the best politician (for there aren’t any) …we always end up voting for the least corrupt. Similarly, women are forced to choose the one who is the least likely to mess up their lives – which is anyway going around and around in cycles. It is this need for security and the ability to compromise, that makes a woman prefer the guy who offered to pay the bill, though he took her to a cheap restaurant. Never walk into the restaurant and say magnanimously: “We will go Dutch…but I will take care of the tip myself.” This just might tip the scales in favour of the guy she had been keeping aside as Plan B.
But taking her to a restaurant and paying the bill might NOT make her trust you. She might start thinking, “This guy takes me to a restaurant, and pays for my dinner. Something is definitely fishy.” and she would make sure that she meets you "only in a restaurant" and your dream about "kamre ka judaag ho gaya" will be shattered.
If she wasn’t already on guard with you, this act of yours will put her on guard. You might not be able to read her mind, but she can read 100s of intentions & combinations into your single smile.
Mind you, women are always on guard …which helps them in their search for ‘security’. It is as if they see these women cell boards like, call 1091, naarion awaz uthao etc. In a way, we men have made the women such experts in sensing the dangers nearby.
Not wanting to be left behind,even the Indian Navy has decided to give up its gender bias and plans to use a woman’s seventh sense…there will be a woman in every sea-going submarine.
This woman will have to look out for dangers under the sea. Navy has SONAR etc….but
apparently they aren’t as effective. The bill hasn’t been passed in the Parliament
yet…our MPs are debating over the Indian Navy’s suggestion that the woman be tied to
the nose of the submarine.
Anyway once you have won over her confidence (if you ever can)…and made her feel safe with you and from the World, when she is with you…she is "ready to be manipulated".
My dear men (women, you still reading?)…there are two things you need to know about a
woman:
1) Women have the inherent need to know everything (who, what, why, when, whome, whose, and really???????????????)
2) Women love to be flattered. (who does'nt and it shows that they are normal)
Women have this inner need to know everything about the man they are interested in or
have ended up marrying. Talk to her…not just about cricket scores or the latest
youtube video you saw on the net. Talk to her about what you did in office, what you
eat for lunch, what you spoke of when you met your colleagues in the loo, what you
were thinking while driving your car back from office, what her mother in law thinks
of her, what her sister in law said about her…just about every possible thing on the planet, except any other love rather lust interest of yours.
On the Flattery front, here are a few stock sentences that you can use to flatter her
and once she is flattered, you can manipulate the hell out of her. Remember, you are
dealing with a person with a seventh sense for security…so be careful.
1) Are you dieting? Or is it the gym? You are definitely losing weight
2) Where did you get that skirt? Goes really well with those shoes.
3) Did you do something to your hair today? I am seeing something extra.
4) I was walking just behind you…and guess what, when you walked past that bus
stop…all the men fainted.
5) You have such nice skin, i always feel like touchin you.
There are certain things you should never tell a woman. Even if it sounds ok to you,
as a man. Sentences like:
1) If I were only half as good looking as you are…I would be my company’s CEO.
2) You have such nice skin. Wish I had that too….damn these rashes!
3) Where did you get that skirt? Would love to see them crushed on the floor.
4) What deo do you use? I was walking just behind you and when you walked past that
bus stop…all the men fainted.
5) Did you do something to your hair today? I am an extra dosage on your shirt today.
While you try these out on the women in your lives, let me do the same. With some
luck, I just might succeed.
And one more thing before i take your leave, there should be "no women on top" and only "the man should be on top" as it just sounds erotic, but in real life.....it sucks...
cheers........
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Career Banao, Khud Jaan Jao...
Hello frnds,
I was down with cold and flue for last couple of days, so i could not come up with any new posts as my nose was completely in love with my hanky and my hanky was also madly in love with my hands, so my fingers were unable to touch the keyboard and my hanky was unable to touch my pocket. So the pocket and fingers could not create another angle in the triangular love story of nose, hands and hanky. I Must tell you one more thing that my cold sucks as badly as the menstrual, as it comes every month and the worst part is that i can't expect a menopause.
Now I am feeling muchchchchchchchchchchchch better.. as everything is in "melting stage" now and i have started breathing from my nose and mouth has finally got rid of this added job.
Few Days Back, I had posted my frustation over the TV shows and for since i've posted my thoughts about it, i started thinking about this more and more, and when i was about to finalize this post, i read the comment left by vijaya,
So Vijaya, this is that latest idea i have.....
An important life-altering one. After years of indecision, I am taking the plunge. My life will change forever after this and so will the lives of people around me. And I'll never be the same again. I wanted to let you know that I've decided to start a "TV channel. "
What? ?????????????????????????
Yeah, as I was saying. I have made this after a lot of thought. To prove to you, I'll put my business case in front of you. I've put this together for anyone else who's interested.
Ingredients :
You'll need:
Saas-bahu serials [ubiquitous]. We won't say much about this. It has been done to death (at least done to the death of my last post.booo hooo). We'll leave you to decide how many of these soaps you want in your channel.
Laughter challenge-type shows. For this, you'll need 2-3 judges who have individual distinct styles of laughing, e.g.,
raise hands and laugh loudly (like Siddhu - English spouting is optional. Really!) or
the 'now-it's-there-now-it's-not' grin that does not stretch your rictus enough to spoil your facelift (like Shekhar Suman)
the 'I-am-going-to-laugh-but-look-menacing' laugh (Shatrughan Sinha)
the spanking new
raise-your-fists-and-shake-them-in-the-air-so-that-the-contestant-does-not-know-if-you-are-laughing-at-his-joke-or-want-to-kill-him' laugh .. phew (Chunky Pandey, who is he?????????)
Of course you don't have to stick to these. You can come up with your own ones. Mine is this: Judges to come up to the contestants after the performance and do a 'Nagina Dance' (snake dance). The score is the number of times the Nag/Nagin (errr....snake/snakess?) lunges. He he he.
Reality shows: This one's pretty new (like Ring-o-garlic Pizza), but catching on like nobody's business (again like the pizza). Ironically, with shows like 'Roadies,' 'Big Boss,' 'Splitsvilla,' NOTHING is 'nobody's business' anymore. Everything is televisable. Even the wedding (rakhi ka swayamvar and rahul dulhaniya le jayega) and Betrayal (Emotional Atyachaar on Bindaas)
OK. To business, little ones! For reality shows, you will need diversity in character, thusly categorized:
Two battling men/women (OK OK. I am totally lying and trying to be nice. Women! the bitchier the better): Charlie and Ravneet(Roadies), Sherlyn and Tanaaz(Big Boss), Pavitra(?!!) and Monika(Splitsvilla). They should not get along at all AND they should form groups. Sprinkle liberally with bad words. The good thing about this is that you get to have polls of random people on the road. Who do you think is right? Pavitra or Monika? This will up your TRPs coz it takes on a very Ramayanesque 'Who's side are you on?' theme.
The underling. More often that not, this guy/gal has to win. This is to prove the triumph of the weak over the mighty. (Ashutosh in Roadies, Vindu in Big Boss). Thus reaffirming that when Mars finally invades us, we will be saved because of the good in our hearts.
The crybaby:: Absolutely needed. If properly utilized, this golden goose will give you television copy worth episodes! Like Vindu in BB3.They will cry at the drop of a hat. And behold! Viewers want to know why they cry in the next episode. It is also great for the ads you make. For example, if you show 'Next week on Roadies.... a shot of Mohit crying...,', you have it! People will watch it..
The bully. Do I need to say anything more? Charlie in Roadies. Just look at her reaction after any vote out and you'll know what I am talking about.
Talent shows: Also very new. Refer to dancing shows (Zara Nachke Dikha, Nachle, Sheher di kudiyaan VS. Gali de gunde, Aaja mahi ve, Dance India Dance), singing shows (Sa Re Ga Ma Pa, Indian Idol, Sooron ka mahasangraam etc), or game shows (Dus ka dum, Kya aap paanchvi..., Bingo, Khatron ke Khiladi... tera haseena, ek khila... sorry I got a little carried away) etc. Anyway, you get the point.
The good thing is that more than the contestants, these shows are a good place for the judges to either prove that they can do as well on TV or simply to kick some life into their dying careers. So, here are the talents that the JUDGES should have in your show.
The ability to laugh a lot, A LOT. You have to keep laughing... and smiling, and grinning. However!! Sometimes, you have to try NOT to laugh. For example, when entire families together try to don similar poshak and prance in front of you (Rock n Roll family)
You should know at least 1001(or more) ways of saying 'What you just did in front of me was good.'
You should have a house-full of enthusiasm. What I mean is not once should you pick up the mike and say 'Accha tha' or ' I liked it' or 'It was nice.' Instead, every time you pick up the mike, beam like a saint, and say 'Aapne to kamaal kar diya, sara stage hila diya.' or 'I have no words' or use the jhatka factor - say 'I am not pleased with your performance today.' Then wait for some time because there will be a drum sound and the camera will focus on the contestant's face for some time (for full impact with the dhannnnnnnnnn sound).
This one's very important: You should have one trademark 'reward.' For example, when you pretend to be really touched, give the contestant a hundred rupee note, or get up and walk to the stage and give them a hug, or say a poem for them. The upside here is that you get to show off your designer dress or designer cleavage when you walk to the stage. It just doesn't do to judge from behind the table, does it, really? Also a tremendous opportunity for your ego if the contestant touches your feet (?!)
Celebrity talk shows: Simi Garewal, Karan Johar, and now Farhan Akhtar! End of story. We rather liked it when celebrities cried on Garewal's show (sadists that we are), we grudgingly enjoyed the banter on Johar's. We want to throw something at Sajid Khan for his boring, artificial, made-up, plastic, pathetic attempt at a celebrity talk show.
We have grown up.....
If you have neither the time nor the inclination for the above detailed recipe, worry not. Chuck it all and go make a news channel, and one like India TV or The India TV, at that. Here is everything you need to fill 24 hours then:
1) Get one of your reporters who is already on duty somewhere to find a stone that looks like Ganesha or Shiva or the Nag God. It's OK if the resemblance is not striking. Your graphics will distract the viewers.
2) Tape one of your reporters speaking in a weird voice. expose images of aliens from ET, or Aliens Vs Predators. Then claim that aliens have made contact.
3) Every two days, proclaim that the world is going to end either because of Shani's 'prakop' (anger) or through a blackhole device that scientists in Russia have created.
(At this point, I'd like to repeat: You DO NOT NEED photographical evidence for any of this. Not even photoshop. Shoddily cut-paste heads and bodies. That's enough)
4) Claim that Salman and Katrina are already married for 7 years, or cut Abu Salem's head (chuckle) and paste it on Sanjay Dutt's body, team with Monica Bedi and play a romantic song in the background.
5) Say that our cows are being taken by aliens. (and that's more than the foreign hand)
6) Follow the culinary habits of witches (except your wife and girlfriend).
That's it, my kiddos, this is your beginner's guide for this career choice. More later. Love until then.
Cheers.......
I was down with cold and flue for last couple of days, so i could not come up with any new posts as my nose was completely in love with my hanky and my hanky was also madly in love with my hands, so my fingers were unable to touch the keyboard and my hanky was unable to touch my pocket. So the pocket and fingers could not create another angle in the triangular love story of nose, hands and hanky. I Must tell you one more thing that my cold sucks as badly as the menstrual, as it comes every month and the worst part is that i can't expect a menopause.
Now I am feeling muchchchchchchchchchchchch better.. as everything is in "melting stage" now and i have started breathing from my nose and mouth has finally got rid of this added job.
Few Days Back, I had posted my frustation over the TV shows and for since i've posted my thoughts about it, i started thinking about this more and more, and when i was about to finalize this post, i read the comment left by vijaya,
So Vijaya, this is that latest idea i have.....
An important life-altering one. After years of indecision, I am taking the plunge. My life will change forever after this and so will the lives of people around me. And I'll never be the same again. I wanted to let you know that I've decided to start a "TV channel. "
What? ?????????????????????????
Yeah, as I was saying. I have made this after a lot of thought. To prove to you, I'll put my business case in front of you. I've put this together for anyone else who's interested.
Ingredients :
You'll need:
Saas-bahu serials [ubiquitous]. We won't say much about this. It has been done to death (at least done to the death of my last post.booo hooo). We'll leave you to decide how many of these soaps you want in your channel.
Laughter challenge-type shows. For this, you'll need 2-3 judges who have individual distinct styles of laughing, e.g.,
raise hands and laugh loudly (like Siddhu - English spouting is optional. Really!) or
the 'now-it's-there-now-it's-not' grin that does not stretch your rictus enough to spoil your facelift (like Shekhar Suman)
the 'I-am-going-to-laugh-but-look-menacing' laugh (Shatrughan Sinha)
the spanking new
raise-your-fists-and-shake-them-in-the-air-so-that-the-contestant-does-not-know-if-you-are-laughing-at-his-joke-or-want-to-kill-him' laugh .. phew (Chunky Pandey, who is he?????????)
Of course you don't have to stick to these. You can come up with your own ones. Mine is this: Judges to come up to the contestants after the performance and do a 'Nagina Dance' (snake dance). The score is the number of times the Nag/Nagin (errr....snake/snakess?) lunges. He he he.
Reality shows: This one's pretty new (like Ring-o-garlic Pizza), but catching on like nobody's business (again like the pizza). Ironically, with shows like 'Roadies,' 'Big Boss,' 'Splitsvilla,' NOTHING is 'nobody's business' anymore. Everything is televisable. Even the wedding (rakhi ka swayamvar and rahul dulhaniya le jayega) and Betrayal (Emotional Atyachaar on Bindaas)
OK. To business, little ones! For reality shows, you will need diversity in character, thusly categorized:
Two battling men/women (OK OK. I am totally lying and trying to be nice. Women! the bitchier the better): Charlie and Ravneet(Roadies), Sherlyn and Tanaaz(Big Boss), Pavitra(?!!) and Monika(Splitsvilla). They should not get along at all AND they should form groups. Sprinkle liberally with bad words. The good thing about this is that you get to have polls of random people on the road. Who do you think is right? Pavitra or Monika? This will up your TRPs coz it takes on a very Ramayanesque 'Who's side are you on?' theme.
The underling. More often that not, this guy/gal has to win. This is to prove the triumph of the weak over the mighty. (Ashutosh in Roadies, Vindu in Big Boss). Thus reaffirming that when Mars finally invades us, we will be saved because of the good in our hearts.
The crybaby:: Absolutely needed. If properly utilized, this golden goose will give you television copy worth episodes! Like Vindu in BB3.They will cry at the drop of a hat. And behold! Viewers want to know why they cry in the next episode. It is also great for the ads you make. For example, if you show 'Next week on Roadies.... a shot of Mohit crying...,', you have it! People will watch it..
The bully. Do I need to say anything more? Charlie in Roadies. Just look at her reaction after any vote out and you'll know what I am talking about.
Talent shows: Also very new. Refer to dancing shows (Zara Nachke Dikha, Nachle, Sheher di kudiyaan VS. Gali de gunde, Aaja mahi ve, Dance India Dance), singing shows (Sa Re Ga Ma Pa, Indian Idol, Sooron ka mahasangraam etc), or game shows (Dus ka dum, Kya aap paanchvi..., Bingo, Khatron ke Khiladi... tera haseena, ek khila... sorry I got a little carried away) etc. Anyway, you get the point.
The good thing is that more than the contestants, these shows are a good place for the judges to either prove that they can do as well on TV or simply to kick some life into their dying careers. So, here are the talents that the JUDGES should have in your show.
The ability to laugh a lot, A LOT. You have to keep laughing... and smiling, and grinning. However!! Sometimes, you have to try NOT to laugh. For example, when entire families together try to don similar poshak and prance in front of you (Rock n Roll family)
You should know at least 1001(or more) ways of saying 'What you just did in front of me was good.'
You should have a house-full of enthusiasm. What I mean is not once should you pick up the mike and say 'Accha tha' or ' I liked it' or 'It was nice.' Instead, every time you pick up the mike, beam like a saint, and say 'Aapne to kamaal kar diya, sara stage hila diya.' or 'I have no words' or use the jhatka factor - say 'I am not pleased with your performance today.' Then wait for some time because there will be a drum sound and the camera will focus on the contestant's face for some time (for full impact with the dhannnnnnnnnn sound).
This one's very important: You should have one trademark 'reward.' For example, when you pretend to be really touched, give the contestant a hundred rupee note, or get up and walk to the stage and give them a hug, or say a poem for them. The upside here is that you get to show off your designer dress or designer cleavage when you walk to the stage. It just doesn't do to judge from behind the table, does it, really? Also a tremendous opportunity for your ego if the contestant touches your feet (?!)
Celebrity talk shows: Simi Garewal, Karan Johar, and now Farhan Akhtar! End of story. We rather liked it when celebrities cried on Garewal's show (sadists that we are), we grudgingly enjoyed the banter on Johar's. We want to throw something at Sajid Khan for his boring, artificial, made-up, plastic, pathetic attempt at a celebrity talk show.
We have grown up.....
If you have neither the time nor the inclination for the above detailed recipe, worry not. Chuck it all and go make a news channel, and one like India TV or The India TV, at that. Here is everything you need to fill 24 hours then:
1) Get one of your reporters who is already on duty somewhere to find a stone that looks like Ganesha or Shiva or the Nag God. It's OK if the resemblance is not striking. Your graphics will distract the viewers.
2) Tape one of your reporters speaking in a weird voice. expose images of aliens from ET, or Aliens Vs Predators. Then claim that aliens have made contact.
3) Every two days, proclaim that the world is going to end either because of Shani's 'prakop' (anger) or through a blackhole device that scientists in Russia have created.
(At this point, I'd like to repeat: You DO NOT NEED photographical evidence for any of this. Not even photoshop. Shoddily cut-paste heads and bodies. That's enough)
4) Claim that Salman and Katrina are already married for 7 years, or cut Abu Salem's head (chuckle) and paste it on Sanjay Dutt's body, team with Monica Bedi and play a romantic song in the background.
5) Say that our cows are being taken by aliens. (and that's more than the foreign hand)
6) Follow the culinary habits of witches (except your wife and girlfriend).
That's it, my kiddos, this is your beginner's guide for this career choice. More later. Love until then.
Cheers.......
Sunday, March 7, 2010
What an "Idea" Sir Ji .......
Hi Friends,
So, I am back after spending few of the most memorable moments of my life and believe me, I am going to cherish them forever and ever. I hope non of you missed any posts by aman and himanshu. Vijaya.. you can have a word with aman and he would be replying your question as i have delegated my jobs and poor aman has got the job to reply all the questions.
So now i am going to do what i am best at.. arrey yaar tum logon ko pakana aur kya???
And all of a sudden i got an IDEA .........
IDEA, I have it , You have it, All of us have plenty of ideas in our minds,.Origin of almost everything. God had an idea to create Adam and Eve, Adam and Eve had an idea to eat that apple, that's how they got an idea of love making which gave birth to another person with loads and loads of ideas.i do't know but perhaps many many years back there were only few people on the earth and now there are billions of people, same is with the ideas.
In the most narrow sense, an idea is just whatever is before the mind when one thinks. Very often, ideas are construed as representational images;like images of some object. In other contexts, ideas are taken to be concepts, although abstract concepts do not necessarily appear as images. Many philosophers consider ideas to be a fundamental ontological category of being.The capacity to create and understand the meaning of ideas is considered to be an essential and defining feature of human beings.In a popular sense, an idea arises in a reflex, spontaneous manner, even without thinking or serious reflection.After this intensive meaning of "Idea", Let's get a bit practical about it. Is an idea always original?? Is it always innovative?? Is it always creative or destructive?? or is it just another term for "being inspired"?? Idea can be a result of "thinking excellence" or "thinking failure". Now i would like to discuss these two aspects of Idea.I was so good in thinking about this topic to write or perhaps i was unable to think about any other tangible thing, which fetch me this "Idea" to write about "Idea" itself..( and i still don't have any idea about it).I don't think that an idea can be original coz a need of something leads to have an idea, an outcome of a thought leads to have an idea. But is an "Idea" worth all the credit which it gets after any invention, any success or any failure?? As i have mentioned arlier, we all think and we all have "ideas" in out minds. Quite often we say "it's a good idea" or "it's a bad idea".But is it idea itself which makes it good or bad or is it something else??.I reckon every idea is good, innovative and creative however it's the execution which makes it good, bad or ugly.Here’s the problem with the formulation. It belies a misunderstanding of what an actionable “idea” really is. A good idea is almost never some light bulb moment that occurs where you realize some insight that no one else has seen. In truth there are few of those. Very, very few people are that smart or that lucky. Great actionable ideas are really a collection of much smaller ideas, weaved together in such a way as to create something useful unique and compelling. There are few actionable “aha” and "eureka"moments.
In other words, to me, coming up with great actionable ideas requires lots of perspiration, iteration, and ideation. However, once you have an actionable idea that has been achieved through this process it is worth way more than 1%. I would say getting to this point is worth easily 50% and perhaps well more than 50% of the value of your enterprise. Actionable and truly compelling business ideas are incredibly valuable. And most people that say otherwise probably don’t have them. For example if you open up a shoe store at Lajpat Nagar, there is likely no “idea” there. But if you have developed a set of insights which allows you to develop a cost effective and safe raw material, that is certainly a valuable idea.
The problem is that people confuse the idea creation process with the execution process. They are different. I think one can, at times, blend the idea creation process with the development process, but there are important distinctions. When development is just execution of some defined idea, that is not idea creation. That is part of execution.
On the other hand, when the development process is part of the ideation process, you have set the stage for an environment where real creativity is possible. But in order for this to work, the development process must be more interactive and less goal-oriented. Great ideas come from having a bit of a “lab-like” environment in the early stages of your process. This is because exploration is almost always required to achieve a great compelling concept. Few of us has the ability to see with clarity a really useful idea from the beginning of the process, which is why iteration and stepwise refinement is so important.
This leads to what I think is a very important issue in the idea development process. There are lots of people who strongly suggest that you should do your development in public. It is part of the “release early and often” concept. But I also believe that this concept is not effective in developing great ideas because it is limiting. The minute that you get real people involved, their needs become much more pedestrian. They will yell loudly about things that may be important to their use of the product, but they will rarely yell about some new game-changing concept. In fact they will resist radical change and rethinking because it messes with their now committed workflow. And now you are comitted to supporting them.
To be clear, I am not saying that a mediocre idea can't be a good business. But good businesses are not all great ideas.
So as I see it, if you want to do something great, you should strongly consider whether you have enough meat on your conceptual bone before you decide to release publicly. Because when you get users involved, it is the equivalent of putting the saw and the screwdriver down and grabbing the sand paper. There will likely be few additional big ideas after that point.
And so the point of all of this is that I feel few people really respect the process of creating big ideas. Compelling idea creation is hard and it is incredibly valuable. And as I see it, the “release early and often” trend is a reflection of a broad-based acceptance of incrementalism, in lieu of real creativity..
To uncomplicate the above said things, An idea remains an idea till the time you don't loose the soul of it. It looses value when you start thinking about the acceptance of your idea and it's pretty much like taking a help of a public pole to decide if you child is good enough to be called your child or not. When we start thinking about the acceptance of an idea and we modify it to get it accepted by others, it becomes a product and a product can neither be valued nor be respected, it can only be sold.
And with 24 years of experience, I have learnt that Ideas are not great, It's our intention and execution which makes them great.
Cheers...
So, I am back after spending few of the most memorable moments of my life and believe me, I am going to cherish them forever and ever. I hope non of you missed any posts by aman and himanshu. Vijaya.. you can have a word with aman and he would be replying your question as i have delegated my jobs and poor aman has got the job to reply all the questions.
So now i am going to do what i am best at.. arrey yaar tum logon ko pakana aur kya???
And all of a sudden i got an IDEA .........
IDEA, I have it , You have it, All of us have plenty of ideas in our minds,.Origin of almost everything. God had an idea to create Adam and Eve, Adam and Eve had an idea to eat that apple, that's how they got an idea of love making which gave birth to another person with loads and loads of ideas.i do't know but perhaps many many years back there were only few people on the earth and now there are billions of people, same is with the ideas.
In the most narrow sense, an idea is just whatever is before the mind when one thinks. Very often, ideas are construed as representational images;like images of some object. In other contexts, ideas are taken to be concepts, although abstract concepts do not necessarily appear as images. Many philosophers consider ideas to be a fundamental ontological category of being.The capacity to create and understand the meaning of ideas is considered to be an essential and defining feature of human beings.In a popular sense, an idea arises in a reflex, spontaneous manner, even without thinking or serious reflection.After this intensive meaning of "Idea", Let's get a bit practical about it. Is an idea always original?? Is it always innovative?? Is it always creative or destructive?? or is it just another term for "being inspired"?? Idea can be a result of "thinking excellence" or "thinking failure". Now i would like to discuss these two aspects of Idea.I was so good in thinking about this topic to write or perhaps i was unable to think about any other tangible thing, which fetch me this "Idea" to write about "Idea" itself..( and i still don't have any idea about it).I don't think that an idea can be original coz a need of something leads to have an idea, an outcome of a thought leads to have an idea. But is an "Idea" worth all the credit which it gets after any invention, any success or any failure?? As i have mentioned arlier, we all think and we all have "ideas" in out minds. Quite often we say "it's a good idea" or "it's a bad idea".But is it idea itself which makes it good or bad or is it something else??.I reckon every idea is good, innovative and creative however it's the execution which makes it good, bad or ugly.Here’s the problem with the formulation. It belies a misunderstanding of what an actionable “idea” really is. A good idea is almost never some light bulb moment that occurs where you realize some insight that no one else has seen. In truth there are few of those. Very, very few people are that smart or that lucky. Great actionable ideas are really a collection of much smaller ideas, weaved together in such a way as to create something useful unique and compelling. There are few actionable “aha” and "eureka"moments.
In other words, to me, coming up with great actionable ideas requires lots of perspiration, iteration, and ideation. However, once you have an actionable idea that has been achieved through this process it is worth way more than 1%. I would say getting to this point is worth easily 50% and perhaps well more than 50% of the value of your enterprise. Actionable and truly compelling business ideas are incredibly valuable. And most people that say otherwise probably don’t have them. For example if you open up a shoe store at Lajpat Nagar, there is likely no “idea” there. But if you have developed a set of insights which allows you to develop a cost effective and safe raw material, that is certainly a valuable idea.
The problem is that people confuse the idea creation process with the execution process. They are different. I think one can, at times, blend the idea creation process with the development process, but there are important distinctions. When development is just execution of some defined idea, that is not idea creation. That is part of execution.
On the other hand, when the development process is part of the ideation process, you have set the stage for an environment where real creativity is possible. But in order for this to work, the development process must be more interactive and less goal-oriented. Great ideas come from having a bit of a “lab-like” environment in the early stages of your process. This is because exploration is almost always required to achieve a great compelling concept. Few of us has the ability to see with clarity a really useful idea from the beginning of the process, which is why iteration and stepwise refinement is so important.
This leads to what I think is a very important issue in the idea development process. There are lots of people who strongly suggest that you should do your development in public. It is part of the “release early and often” concept. But I also believe that this concept is not effective in developing great ideas because it is limiting. The minute that you get real people involved, their needs become much more pedestrian. They will yell loudly about things that may be important to their use of the product, but they will rarely yell about some new game-changing concept. In fact they will resist radical change and rethinking because it messes with their now committed workflow. And now you are comitted to supporting them.
To be clear, I am not saying that a mediocre idea can't be a good business. But good businesses are not all great ideas.
So as I see it, if you want to do something great, you should strongly consider whether you have enough meat on your conceptual bone before you decide to release publicly. Because when you get users involved, it is the equivalent of putting the saw and the screwdriver down and grabbing the sand paper. There will likely be few additional big ideas after that point.
And so the point of all of this is that I feel few people really respect the process of creating big ideas. Compelling idea creation is hard and it is incredibly valuable. And as I see it, the “release early and often” trend is a reflection of a broad-based acceptance of incrementalism, in lieu of real creativity..
To uncomplicate the above said things, An idea remains an idea till the time you don't loose the soul of it. It looses value when you start thinking about the acceptance of your idea and it's pretty much like taking a help of a public pole to decide if you child is good enough to be called your child or not. When we start thinking about the acceptance of an idea and we modify it to get it accepted by others, it becomes a product and a product can neither be valued nor be respected, it can only be sold.
And with 24 years of experience, I have learnt that Ideas are not great, It's our intention and execution which makes them great.
Cheers...
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