"This" Or "That".....You Choose.....

Hi Friends,



In the last 5-6 years of my life, I have observed something, Something about the people whom I met, Something about things I have seen and something about situation I have gone through and that "something" is the difference between the initial thought and the final thought about those people, Things and situation.


Earlier I did not know what to call this initial reaction and final verdict, However when it started me hurting like anything, I tried and found out that the initial expression is called "Perception" and after sometime when you mix your own judgement in it, It becomes "Reality".


Now, Whenever I get nostalgic and think about my past life, I observe that I have always been a victim of "Perception" and the "Reality" has shocked me so many times. Or I can say that every now and then I have run for water and have found "Mirage" Instead.


Is reality nothing but a concept unique to each of us? Can anything be classed as real when our perceptions differ greatly on so many things? Just because we see something a particular way does not make it so. We can be so insistent sometimes that our way of seeing something is more right than someone else’s way.


Keep an open mind at all times and remember that a point of view is always valuable to each individual. I always used to class myself as someone who was "realistic", But after contemplating this further I realised that the term "realistic" means something very different entirely.


Lets take the example of war. There are some people who believe that war is necessary sometimes to get peace and then in order to keep the peace. There are other people who will believe that war is evil and should never be entered into no matter what. Who is right? Is war right or wrong? That’s just an example and I’m not here to answer that question  (coz even i am waiting for one).



I’m here to demonstrate that reality is a very fluid concept. What you see as real is only defined by your belief structure. Your version of what is real is only your perception of it; Not what is so. and somebody has said,



“We see the world, Not as it is, But as we are”



As far as my experience is concerned, I have gone through this difference every time I have met with somebody for the first time in my life and the "reality" has always outplayed the "perception" and "reality" has turned out in a really horrible manner every time.


Your belief structure determines your perception which then ultimately determines how you respond to events. Going by that sequence you can then see that there is another place to start. You can choose to examine your beliefs and then choose to change them. That’s why I have learnt that everything begins with a choice.



Or Perhaps There is no such thing as "reality". There is only "your" reality which is essentially your "perception". Remember that what you believe to be true is only as true as your personal experience and it doesn’t go any further than that. Even many scientific theories are just that, They are just theories! It doesn’t make them a universally accepted.



It’s important to note that how you choose to perceive things is how they come across to you. Am I being a hypocrite in stating this? Is this just my reality? I guess in some ways yes I am being a bit of hypocrite but this is my theory based on  universal principles. I believe that your power to choose how to perceive things makes them appear that way to you.



So Keep thinking about it and let me know if need to adopt anymore principles, By which i can be away from "This" Perception and come closer to "That" Reality.



Cheers......

Aur Shaadi Ho Gayi.....

Hi Friends,


Starting to write after 26 days. Longest break taken in last six months. Just to inform you all that I was more than busy in helping my wife in shopping which was okay but also in few more things like suggesting a gift and matching the colors of her various dresses as well which is not at all okay.


My friend's wedding was the reason behind all this chaos. But it was not a chaos from the beginning, But my wife's preparation for this wedding converted this pleasant occasion into a nightmare, As even in my dreams, I was selecting dresses and matching accessories for my wife and my dreams were so real that all my suggestions were getting rejected again and again and still I was forced to come up with a new and ready-to-get-rejected suggestion.

And finally, On the early morning of 24th of May'09, Another friend of mine became a “martyr”.




When he was getting ready for his wedding and was wearing a quite expensive “Sherwaani”, my last words in his ears were “I know it's too late, but my friend, Is it really important for you to get married?? think again if you can!!!!!”. He replied, “Ab to ho rahi hai yaar”.

God bless the soul of another bachelor .......


I can't forget those days when we boozed together, went for movies together and had loads of fun. But now, These are the memories with which I will cherish and spend rest of my life.


After I got married, He was the only one who used to bring the wave of bachelorhood with him in my house. But now whenever he will come, Rather if he gets to come, Their will be two intelligent ladies talking and two dumb a** listening.

Scene will be almost like this..

(click on the picture above if you want to know the depth of the torture)

No points for guessing that who is husband and who is wife...


And that's not it because as he has already committed the “SIN”, So there is nothing much can be done about it. However once he'll meet me next time, I'll surely give him a bit of gyan about what a women wants in her man and how can a man survive a married life accordingly.




I got married when I was 21 and I know about the married life of so many people who in their 30s or 40s. So here is the wish list of the women..

What a women wants in her man, Original List (at age 22)


1. Handsome
2. Charming
3. Financially successful
4. A caring listener
5. Witty
6. In good shape
7. Dresses with style
8. Appreciates the finer things
9. Full of thoughtful surprises
10. An imaginative, romantic lover

Revised List (at age 32)

1. Nice looking - preferably with hair on his head
2. Opens car doors, holds chairs
3. Has enough money for a nice dinner at restaurant
4. Listens more than he talks
5. Laughs at her jokes at appropriate times
6. Can carry in all the groceries with ease
7. Owns at least one tie
8. Appreciates a good home cooked meal
9. Remembers birthdays and anniversaries
10. Seeks romance at least once a week



Re-revised List (at age 42)


1. Not too ugly - bald head OK
2. Doesn't drive off until she is in the car
3. Works steady - splurges on dinner at McDonalds on occasion
4. Nods head at appropriate times when she is talking
5. Usually remembers the punchlines of jokes
6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange the furniture
7. Usually wears shirt that covers stomach
8. Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids
9. Remembers to put the toilet seat lid down
10. Seeks romance maximum once a week




Jokes apart but my friend's wedding was the happiest thing happened to all of us as He waited for this moment too long, She waited for this moment for too long......”Aur Shaadi Ho Gayi”.


May god bless them with a happy, Healthy and immortal married life with loads of love and unlimited fun...

Cheers....