Let's Forget it.....

Hi Friends,

Today, I've decided to write about the intangible, yet most important thing in Life, Memories...

When you most want to remember something, it doesn’t come to you. When you most want to forget something, it doesn’t close the door behind.Like layers, each memory sits on the other — marking its place in the mind and its position on the stack. Not necessarily chronologically, but by a vague self-serving importance. We often believe that a particularly unpleasant memory sits on the top of the stack only to trouble us, haunt us and cause deep agony, remind us of all that we would like to forget.

Forgetting something is just a matter of rearranging the memory stack (and no, I am not indulging in tech-lingo here) and it seems to be inherited to the human nature.

"The whole of world history often seems to me nothing more than a picture book which portrays humanity’s most powerful and senseless desire, “The desire to forget”.

This was said by some Mr. Hermann Hesse, winner of noble prize in literature. I found this quote by just random “googling”, He may have said this in a completely different context, it is true about those delinquent memories that we try to avoid looking in the face. In order to push back a memory down the stack, we keep calling it. Like a file on a computer’s disk, it keeps coming up front; it’s accessed. But this memory cannot be wiped out, these are files that cannot be erased . They may be forgotten and archived or may even get lost, but will never be erased.

And for good reason. I have forgotten many things, when I think of them, I think there is a good reason even for that.. And then, one fine morning, The memory stack gets reordered.

The most unpleasant of all memories will serve you well someday. When it comes to the top of the stack in a completely different context, you will know something that you didn’t before — see it in a way that you never did. Remember to forget what you don’t need to remember. You will remember it when you need to.

“The greater gift to humankind is the ability to remember. But, the greatest gift to humankind is the ability forget.”

The above said is again something which I read somewhere, As we know, That most of the times we remember only what we want to remember and forget what we don't want to remember, So ultimately it's our choice, So let's choose the best for ourselves because we live our life surrounded by memories. Good ones, bad ones, and some really ugly ones. So it's up to us to decide which one to live with.

There is something about the mechanical nature in us that often denies us the forgetting of bad memories. We somehow become slave to them. They keep popping up at the most inappropriate times, moving us from a state of low-spirits to dejection. At that precise moment however, the good memories that will bring some relief to the feeling of despair, never seem to surface. They remain hidden, blurred, like under the uniform blue of a deep ocean.

Maybe it is a lesson for us in life, we have to be able to string together the good ones, on a very short string too, and keep them on the top of the stack. Keep them accessible. Because the more bad and ugly things that you remember about someone or something or someplace, the more you concrete your perception about it.

In recent time I have found it amusing, How we use the negative memories as evidence in our arguments that are against somebody. Whenever there is a collusion of thoughts or simply a fight, we don't forget to mention what negative thing the other person said or did few days or at times even few years back. That too, like “facts”. Memories aren’t dominating in that, a good memory does not cancel a bad one. Even if you assume that you have equal number of good and bad memories, the bad ones seem to float better.

And the biggest consequence of the wrong choice on memory is "The Pain".caused by a bad memory, possibly leaves a deeper and pronounced scar that is difficult to ignore. Perhaps it is about letting go, perhaps it is about forgiving. I do not know. But I know this: it is definitely about forgetting the bad ones.

Have you ever traveled the proverbial road down memory lane? Or possibly the physical road of past homes and lives? Our memory often plays games with reality and easily brings forward the good thoughts often shadowing challenges and difficulties. One stroll, without emotional checks in place, can lead us on a path of memory bliss and if not careful – will cloud the thoughts of the present. Current struggles become impassable mountains and exotic waterfalls and fields of flowers overtake the current hardship. But, it is an illusion for the people who keep looking for an excuse to highlight the “negative”.

Also on a spiritual note, It isn’t wrong to take an occasional stroll down memory lane or even gaze at the grass. We just have to be reminded that we live here and now and God has great things He wants to do this here and now through us. After all, all of this is for His glory and not comfort or satisfaction . Learn from the past and strive for the goal of the upward call of the Almighty. Otherwise, we will spend our Life seeking illusive future and imaginative yesteryear.

So all in all,

We need to remember to forget, to live a better life.

what say friends????

Cheers...